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Might be a perceived level of personal responsibility. (Not saying you don't have it, just guessing as to what she's seeing.) I spent a long time resenting my brother because, he being the less inclined of us to ever do anything, he got a lot more support from our mom in all forms, while I simply got praised for doing everything well and thoroughly on my own. To this day he is still living with her in his late 20s, and that used to infuriate me, that she wouldn't kick him out to sink or swim like my father had long ago. But in recent years she's been able to offer a lot more intangible things to me with regards to my kids, like babysitting and research and buying stupid items that are not about the money but about my inability to physically go to the store, and I've made peace with the idea that she gives to us equally but in different ways (or at least she does now that she's found something I need.) Perhaps it's really about your sister's relationship with your mom, rather than with you.
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