[classicman]

SG - Your post really hit home for me.

Wasting your life looking for her approval will do NOTHING positive for you.

I have an older brother - much the same situation. He is extremely successful financially, but in the familial department he is sorely lacking.

I have taken up the zippy plan for the last few years... I still lament on the reality that I have a brother whom I don't really know well or see, but that's HIS problem. I cannot do anymore than I've already done to rectify it. It's on him now. IF it happens, great. If not - oh well, I tried.