@ Griff: I was just reading in TIME about chronic pain...a large percentage from back problems. I hope you heal. It can take just one incident to vastly change our lives. I have faith that you will feel better soon.
@ monster: your daughter, making these kinds of decisions, will benefit so much later in life as far as problem-solving. It has to be so hard to see her conflicted, but damn good parenting on your part. You and beest are raising an independent young lady. Good on you.