[Sundae]

Bri, my feelings are pretty much entirely for you.
But being outside the situation I can only counter that you are dealing with a young man with problems.
If he was deaf you wouldn't shout at him.
If he was blind you wouldn't be mad if he couldn't find his way out of a room.

Living with a young man with any problem must be bloody hard, and I'm not criticising you.

Clod will have the best advice. That comment stands alone. But apart from her huge, benevolent brain, she also lives with two children with behavioural issues (as far as general society is concerned). She knows the difference between catering to a specific need and giving in, and how to choose your battles.

Despite waffling on above, I really can't offer any help.
I just send my love and hope there are better times for you and your lad.