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Originally posted by Lady Sidhe
I have learned an unspoken rule from this thread, though: you're not allowed any oopses if you're new, because you're automatically seen as being whiny and melodramatic.
Sidhe
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I had kind of held back on this, because I recently made some similar statements about negativity. I think the big difference was that I realized
relatively quickly that i was being a sissy about it, and backed off. Sidhe, I've noticed, however is nearly unshakable from her position. claims to be open minded do not in itself make you open minded. I realized as i read th eabove posts that sidhe was the one that had the friend who's hubby was fooling around, and while she started the thread asking for advice, she basically just stuck to her initial opinion and argued with everyone who had a different perception of what she described.
so, considering what I've just said, I'd make a slight adjustment to your unspoken rule:
"you're not allowed to be whiny and melodramatic if you're new"
That's because no one knows you well enough to like you yet, and you will not often be given a pass by EVERYONE. if 5 or 6 people have given you some shit, i think it's safe to assume that twice or three times that number had similar thoughts but just didn;t say it out loud (kind of like cockroaches where every one you see represents 50 you don;t)