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Agree. Kindness is big. So is courtesy. And respect - has to come from both sides. And friendship, even if you're feeling frisky and friendship isn't high on the priority list ... it's where the fun and nice stuff come in. Lack of sex addiction and weirdness - good, good point, Tril. Lack of weirdness, but presence of physical attraction. Willingness to wait to get to know someone before letting them into your life. Writing it out ahead of time helps the big head think straight (maybe) when the little one has its own agenda.

Oh, and another thing I've learned: don't think that because you know somebody slightly and have a general impression of them being a good person (from a public reputation) that the person really is like that. Watch closely what the person actually says and does. Otherwise you may miss the fact that this person is far from what they present for public consumption.