MTO the old saw, "You can choose you friends, but not your family".
Yes, best case you can cultivate a social circle that doesn't grind on you, will give you the space you need, but ideally will be there if you need a hand.
Yeah, that's only in novels and Matthew McConaughey movies, but it is a good target to shoot for.
Family is tough, not only because you're stuck with what you have, but they feel they have the right & duty to fix your life the way they think it should be.
I found that although I couldn't choose my family(other than changing inlaws
), I could choose the ones I only wanted to see at mandatory functions like Christmas vs see when I had the chance.
Of course I had to cope until I was in a position to support myself and put some distance between us. If it's more than an hour's drive they can't say, "Well, I was in the neighborhood..."
The point is you can do this because it's not permanent, and the better you get, the more you can help yourself get your head into an even better place.
Would I lie to you...
if it didn't involve money or sex.