[OnyxCougar]

Originally posted by Clodfobble

And I think it's only making the problem worse: if adoption were really as encouraged as it in theory is, I think many more women would choose it. But the same family/friends who ask accusingly why someone would choose to not have children also say "How could you give up your own child??" to the totally unprepared and inadequate young mother who accidentally got pregnant.

I resemble that. From the time I gave him up to the time I got him back, any time I told the story, that question would be asked. Never mind that I was homeless and living on coconuts and ramen. Nevermind I never saw a doctor because California wouldn't let me go on welfare. Nevermind that I gave birth on the couch. Nevermind I was just turned 17 and hadn't finished school. "How could you give up your baby?" I always felt that was a no win question.