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Originally posted by Radar
Actually I told her, "the more you do it, the less it hurts and the better it feels, so let's do lots of it" but she didn't buy it. She's new at it. I think things will be better if she just practices. But that's tough when you're 9,000 miles away for each other.
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it might have something to do with her level of comfort during sex. which is completely different to being turned on. A woman can be really really turned on, with hours of foreplay and still be "tight" or "clenched up" internally because they might not feel comfortable for any reason (ppl can be like this and not even know that its happening)eg
with their body
with the sex
performance anxiety
with you (yes, even though your married)
nervous about the penetration
it may have only hurt once and the anticipation of it hurting again makes the internal walls tense up.
this can cause real pain, usually it starts off ok and starts hurting about 3 mins into the actual act, after that you would pay for him to stop!
the best thing for this can be just spending time not only trying to turn your wife on, but also trying to make her relax and feel safe and comfortable as well, and if you think it hurts her STOP, eventually she will mould to you and become much more comfortable and things will be better for both of you.