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Originally Posted by Gravdigr
IDK if you're aware, Ortho, but Momdigr & Popdigr live with me.
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Now if I can get the old man to take some money, I'll be happ ier,
but I don't think I'll ever be happy about this.
As for the color...  light sand. |
Grav, I've had the same experience with my Dad when he was living with us,
... and now my daughters are having those kinds of issues with me !
I believe it comes from an inevitable feeling of losing control as us old farts get older and older.
So $ becomes, some sense a way of maintaining our self-images.
We don't want to impose ourselves into the lives of our adult children,
but we have had a lifetime of being "the parent" and it's hard to give up that role.
AND, we don't want the squabbles that often come from "offering" or "suggesting" that we help out.
To us, an offer rejected or resisted by our kids is both a good thing
(showing their independence and maturity) and a bad thing
(showing they don't need us as much any more)
I'll bet your Dad had the very best of intentions of trying to "help" you,
and I doubt that, in his mind, it had anything to do with "home ownership".
A simple "Thank you, Dad" would probably do a lot more (for him), than any offer of $.