[lumberjim]

This thread isn't about the shock. It's about the shock of realizing that she feels that her main worth to her family is what she does in her role as a mother / care provider...

I didn't feel like I could address this on book face.... But in here, it's better.

Was this topic on the table when you and Dazza had your come to Jesus talk a few weeks ago?

You've got a wee bairn that needs you 95% of her waking hours, and iirc, 3 adult - ish males that rely on you to cook clean and clothe them?

Seems like anyone would be feeling the same way you do. There is probably better advice available than what I can offer, but I'd maybe try a few little things, and see how you feel.
Have a family meeting, express your concern calmly, and Institute some changes.

1: set aside an hour or two a day for some alone time for yourself. During the baby's nap if it must be...
2: Give the boys instructions on how to do their own laundry for starts, and schedule the time they are to do it. Maybe work them into a turn based rotation for doing the whole household's laundry
3: Make each male plan and prepare dinner once a week. You'll be needed as a coach in the beginning, I guess...


Maybe in your new free time you could learn something that could then be taught to the boys.... Or you could do some home improvement... Enlist their help, bond, etc. Create your own value. Nothing says you have to wait on them.

Oh, and get some sexy underwear, and have morning sex and stuff.