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In my experience* and in my generation, whenever the topic of spanking comes up, the room is likely to go 50-50 when asked whether they themselves were spanked.
And what I notice is that you can't really tell whether they were spanked by their behavior, so much as their culture; and that is urban vs suburban vs rural, central Pennsylvania versus big city, fashionable or regular, that sort of thing; not whether they were smart or focused or even personally disciplined.
What all this information says is that spanking alone is not a critical component in determining success, and anyone can be spanked or not spanked and be successful or not successful. The belief that it works or doesn't work is entirely 100% personal, because it's written to your hard drive at an extremely young age. And we are not aware of what actually works, because it's not even in our parents' beans. They did what their parents did, because it, too, was written to their hard drive.
By the time we have the capacity for rational thought, we have already been successfully parented, in so many ways that it's hard to imagine. This leads to behavior that is so deep-seated it feels like instinct.
*this is what someone says when they want it to be clear that the following is unscientific blather and should not really be highly regarded
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