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I can't tell you what to do, only what we did.
I had the talk with both of them when they were very young. Kids that age love to know how things work and this was just one of many talks about how all sorts of different things work. And then after the basic insert tab a into slot b explanation when they were very little, my wife and I have just explained our values when teachable moments come up. I've never had a talk about how the pleasure of sex works or how to get it on. I think that's not something they want to hear from their parents. Just the basic biology and the values. And then probably most important to me, I try to be a good role model in how I interact with my wife. I want my son to see how a man should treat a woman, and I want my daughter to see how she should be treated. Because sex is just part of the relationship.
I'd recommend having the penis goes into the vagina talk now, if you haven't already, although he probably knows it well from the internet. And then talk about values. The time and place for sex. What it means to have sex with someone. Who you have sex with. The respect for the partner. And how what he sees on the internet is porn and porn is different from reality and don't let it confuse him. Actually, I need to have that last talk with my own kids. I haven't talked to them much about porn.
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