[Elspode]

If we come up with enough, we could do both. I would interject that I personally favor giving plants, because they live on after the ceremony as a reminder of the loved one who departed. We have a couple of plants in our arsenal that we were gifted following funerals. Most precious is the one from Leslie's father's service.

And, if embarrassment is a concern, well...a cash gift could be sent anonymously while the plant could bear our names and well wishes on a card. It would be harder to be embarrassed with no idea of the origin of the donation, and Bruce is right...funerals are goddamn expensive.