Without making this all mememe:
My collagues at my main job (here) are all married with children. They are also on approx 3x my salary, which shouldn't make a difference, but it does in terms of the things they do with their spare time. I have to save up to do the things they see as spontaneous.
My colleagues at my Saturday job are more varied:
- the shop's owners. Lovely people but quite insular. Don't usually go out except with friends they have known for years who are also married with children - I am hired to babysit (which I appreciate)
- 60yo rock chick, who makes me laugh now, but drove me fruitloop for the 1st year I knew her. She stage manages a band and took me to a couple of gigs. I had a brief fling with the bass-player who was sexy but stupid and now I just go to her house for dinner.
- 16yo girl - nuff said. A sweet girl but not socialising material!
- Chinese graduate - v intelligent, killing time til (Chinese) bf graduates. Much younger than me & have never heard her talk about socialising
Please believe me, I'm not dismissing any viable sources of introduction. My friend & I actually fell out over this. After splitting up with his GF (and I was there for him every weekend despite being in a state myself) we talked and talked about forging a new social life together and how good it would be for both of use. He then got a girlfriend & ignored me after 4 years of friendship.
This is not in the nature of a complaint - just an explanation about why it is hard for me to meet people. I am more than open to Dwellars questioning this - there might be something I am genuinely not considering.
ANYWAY - if I'm ever in Philly I'll look you up
