Quote:
Originally Posted by orthodoc
I can't escape the fact that, in spite of having done everything in my power to save and sustain and empower my children, they are permanently traumatized and struggle daily due to their history.
|
This is my mother's story, my story.
Yes, my childhood sucked.
Yes, I've got some baggage from it.
We all do, to differing extents. As others have said, you did what you could, where you were, with what you had. Though your children are tempted to ask for more, that chapter is done and there is nothing you can do to rewrite it now.
For yourself, I'd say to be honest -- you need help and companionship, and this situation works for you. You can be sorry that they don't agree with the choice, but they cannot make the choice for you.
For them: your past does not define you. It might have informed who you are, but the only one in control of your adult life is you. You can grieve over the idyllic childhood you wish you'd had, then put your big boy panties on and go build a life for yourself that you are happy with.
Wishing you peace and comfort, ortho. I hope nights become easier for you soon.