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Yabbut the context changes when one person is strong enough to force the other. Try this instead:
Men of the thread, can you imagine hanging out with a dude friend and he asks you to have sex? And you say no, but hey, you're an enlightened guy and it's cool, no harm done, you just go back to playing video games... and then just before you're about to leave, he leans in at the doorframe and asks again?
Now imagine that you say no, again, and he says "too bad" and rapes the shit out of you.
But hey, awful things happen, you report him to the cops, you go to therapy, you get over it... And a few years later, you're hanging out with a new dude friend, and he asks you to have sex with him. And you say no.
And then he asks again.
There is an inherent vulnerability to being a woman that is very, very hard for dudes to grasp. Yes, most men aren't rapists, and most women want to assume the best of most men. But sometimes men can be so fucking blind to the power dynamic. Believe me, women never forget the power dynamic. It's always in the back of our minds. Always.
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