I've been too busy to visit of late, but decided to check in today. I saw this thread and I am truly sorry UT.
As I am reading, I remember this one thing I heard, is to never allow someone to fall in love with the potential of you or allow yourself to fall in love with the potential of another.
It's a hard motto to live and love by. To accept someone as they truly are and not as you would want them to be and that is the crux, as human nature always aspires the best for those we love, while at the same time forgetting our own personal growth and pushing the other toward that growth we want.
I know that doesn't help or say very much, as I am thinking out loud in text. I guess I just want you to see that I care and my thoughts are much more than my simple sorry to a complex relationship and it's breakup.
I'm sorry UT. You are a good guy and I wish the best for you.