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Originally Posted by BigV
Who "wins" in case of a tie?
What is "winning"?
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Recently, Els and I were discussing with another married couple about fights. Something she passed along was this...if you are fighting to win, then you are fighting for the wrong reasons. You should be fighting to find a solution to your mutual problem. You fight FOR each other, not AGAINST each other.
Els and I are fairly competative people, against others and each other sometimes. We both like to win, and we both have a problem of always wanting the last word. However, this is often not in our best interest. I'm trying to remember to fight FOR the marriage and FOR compromise, and not to win. If I trust him and trust in his love for me, then I don't need to worry about winning because I know that he will always want what is in my best interests....and if he doesn't, I know where the frying pan and the super glue are.
