I've been living with my boyfriend for about a year now and I still don't know how to get him to help out with the cleaning. We both have jobs (although mine is full-time and his is only part-time), but somehow I wind up doing all the cleaning. I've tried talking to him rationally: "I don't see any reason why I should be doing extra work when we could split the cleaning and both be happier." I've tried making him feel bad for it: "It hurts that you would sit there and watch me clean the kitchen when I've just gotten home from a job I hate and you were off all day." And of course, I've tried screaming at him to just do it. Nothing works. He always seems to "forget" or "get sidetracked" or some such bullshit... I really don't know what to do. I HATE to clean, but do it anyway because a dirty apartment just makes me depressed. So Stacy, I wish you luck and beg you to PLEASE let me know if you ever find a way to get him to do his share (I promise to reciprocate
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