Me and my SO get kinda kinky, and whenever I want him to get rough he does. Sometimes it is actually a little too much, but he can tell when I start to feel the unhappy pain and eases up on it. But we both love it when he pulls my hair and spanking is fun from time to time. I have outfits I wear too, and he will tie my up in them. All of it is great fun! I am sure if I wanted to get really rough, he would oblige me.
We just talk about what we want, and both of us are willing to try anything at least once.