[lumberjim]

lady s,

i confess to not reading your last two posts, since you have been repeating yourself in lengthy fashion.....repeatedly.

so...from where i jumped ahead....

here's the deal: he is immature, and attempting to escape from the misery in his life. she's depressed, and in his mind represents whats wrong with his life. she's like an anchor around his neck. he just wants to be a boy again. and he will be. the red head strokes his ego, and talks about things that carry no emotional baggage for him. its fantasy.

and you can bet that she's playing his skin flute. he would have porked the friend too...count on it.

he's on the way out, and she needs to realize it quickly, and start getting over him. this jealousy/trust/control spiral will not get better....it may lapse for periods of time, but as i said in my initial response.....better now than later.

one question, tho......how much weight has your friend gained since the wedding?