[xoxoxoBruce]

So I'm assuming you're in Canada, at a reasonably doable, but time consuming, travel distance. That may be a blessing in disguise, making you available, but not it the center of the turmoil. You can stay in touch and informed through the kids, but not so close you feel you should be doing 'something-but-what'.
Hopefully, being in a "they also serve who only stand and wait" situation, will help you concentrate on the new job a little easier. Whatever the case, we know it's not easy, and wish you well.