[Aliantha]

I was with a man once who (I found out later) used to say we were 'just friends', particularly when he was trying to chat up another woman. Later, he would say the same about his current g/f when I questioned him about his relationship, but when I asked her, she'd say they were in love and blah blah blah.

He's continued to do the same thing to his own detriment for the last 20 years. I don't think he's likely to stop.

People who don't value what they have, probably should take a good look at themselves, and you anon, should certainly not think it has anything to do with you.

Also i'd point out that Liz Hurley was quoted as saying Shane Warne was 'just a bit of rough' when they were first caught by the paparazzi, but now they're engaged and all that, so sometimes there is a reason for saying negative things (although few and far between).

Have you confronted your partner about what you heard? That'd be a great place to start with sorting this out if you haven't already.