[lumberjim]

I settled with my soon to be ex yesterday. things will get slightly better for me financially and she has what she needs to keep the kids in their school, and have some security in case I carc it. things kind of shook out how i expected, so i don't feel wronged. It must have aligned with her plans as well, because it's agreed. now we just wait a few weeks for the final decree to be created, and we can officially be single.
We spent 3 hours at the conference,... maybe 1/4 of that in the same room as each other, and at no time did she even look in my direction. Part of me thinks she does that because she know it fucks with my head... but then i remember how she is with stressful situations. avoid, avert, escape. no eye contact means i wont speak to her. works pretty well, i guess. I was afraid to say anything to her. she looked like a stranger to me.