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Old 07-02-2006, 09:31 AM   #4
MaggieL
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Originally Posted by DucksNuts
What do you class as cheating? Is it just the physical aspect or the emotional as well? What about internet interference??? is it only cheating if you actually meet someone you have been chatting to online (whilst involved with someone else) or it is once you form an emotional bond with that online person ?? If you have feelings for someone online and never act on them...is that cheating?
Perhaps this rhetorical question (to yourself) will help you clarify how you feel:

"Is what matters to you about a relationship only the physicality, or do the emotions matter too?"

I've been in polyamorus relationships before, and may perhaps sometimes again. I'll assert that it's not impossible at all to love more than one person at a time, nor impossible to deal with the situation of loving somebody who also loves others. But not everybody's ready to handle the additional energy and complexity such relationships consume, nor are even people who *can* do it necessarily prepared to do it at all times. Sometimes you just don't have the slack.

That said, no matter what number of intimate relationships--online *or* in person-- you're prepared to undertake, absolute honesty with all your partners is paramount.

Absent that, it's cheating.
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