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Old 08-18-2009, 11:13 AM   #1
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Spanking

I believe there will come a time in the future when people will read history, learn that we had a practice of beating children systematically on their bare buttocks, and they will cringe in the horror of such a bizarrely cruel and ineffective parenting approach to misbehavior.

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Study: Spanking may lead to sexual problems later

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The analysis of four studies by Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire-Durham, suggests that children whose parents spanked, slapped, hit or threw objects at them may have a greater chance of physically or verbally coercing a sexual partner, engaging in risky sexual behavior or engaging in masochistic sex, including sexual arousal by spanking.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:22 AM   #2
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It's the duct tape of parenting. Ugly but quick and effective enough in the short term to make it popular - but the problem will still have to be addresses for real at some point.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:22 AM   #3
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I wouldn't be surprised if it's a pendulum-swing phenomenon. People will be surprised we didn't beat teh evil out of them more frequently and thoroughly.
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:25 AM   #4
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:38 AM   #5
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maybe it's not the parental spanking but the being studied by Murray Straus that leads to sexual deviance?
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:46 AM   #6
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The Hawthorne effect can lead to S&M?
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Old 08-18-2009, 11:49 AM   #7
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OK. So how many of us here were brought up by parents who spanked us? I was and I dont fall into the 'physically or verbally coercing a sexual partner, engaging in risky sexual behavior or engaging in masochistic sex, including sexual arousal by spanking' category.
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Old 08-18-2009, 12:02 PM   #8
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I was spanked by my parents.

My children have never been spanked.
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Old 08-18-2009, 12:11 PM   #9
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I was spanked by my parents.

My children have never been spanked.

but has your wife?


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Old 08-18-2009, 01:30 PM   #10
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lol @ monnie!

Me too - but not my kids.

Maybe thats the problem with kids today? <runs and hides>
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Old 08-18-2009, 01:33 PM   #11
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I don't have a problem with spanking kids, with the hand in a reasonable manner and not in anger, for egregious offenses.

I DO have a problem with hitting kids with belts, wire coat hangers, and hairbrushes--all of which were used on me.
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Old 08-18-2009, 01:44 PM   #12
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rulers, breadboards, yardsticks....
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Old 08-18-2009, 01:52 PM   #13
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I don't have a problem with spanking kids, with the hand in a reasonable manner and not in anger, for egregious offenses.

I DO have a problem with hitting kids with belts, wire coat hangers, and hairbrushes--all of which were used on me.
The METAL, SLOTTED hairbrush?
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Old 08-18-2009, 01:52 PM   #14
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yardstick, yeah, geez. Forgot about that one.

probably not metal or slotted, but with the business end of the brush toward the heiny.
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Old 08-18-2009, 02:26 PM   #15
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My mom used a metal slotted spatula on my bare behind a couple of times. Once was after she found out I took all the cash out of her wallet and spent it at the dime store.
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