Having to watch others in pain

orthodoc · 09-14-2013, 09:59 PM

This is one of the hardest things.

My oldest son has had his seasonal affective (mood, depressive) symptoms descend on him as the days shorten. He's withdrawing socially, not sleeping, struggling. He's had more than one psychotic depression in the past. He called me tonight because he'd promised, several months ago, to keep the lines of communication open. He has been suicidal before, most recently this year. I'm in the same area for the next six weeks, but what after that? Should I move to the DC area? I hate to think of being far away and unable to be there in a crisis.

There are other major crises looming with my other three children. It looks like being a very rocky fall.

Chocolatl · 09-14-2013, 10:18 PM

Wishing you and yours strength and peace, ortho.

Perry Winkle · 09-14-2013, 11:44 PM

Sorry your son is in pain.

I have the same issue and I hate putting my parents and wife through it every year. I keep thinking it might be a good argument for making the move to a more southerly clime, even if there is otherwise a quality of life hit. But the depression started a couple of weeks ago and there will be no more clear thought on my part until Mayish.

Aliantha · 09-14-2013, 11:46 PM

What choco said. t often happens that all the troubles seem to come at once. We're just coming out the other side of a similar period in our family. You will get there ortho. Xxx

Griff · 09-15-2013, 05:38 AM

Sorry guys, be strong.

orthodoc · 09-15-2013, 08:33 AM

Thanks. Things do seem to come in waves.

Lamplighter · 09-15-2013, 10:17 AM

Light panels ?

Melatonin ?

Anti-depressants ?

Nirvana · 09-15-2013, 10:36 AM

Long time SAD sufferer and the only thing that worked for me was 5 - 10,000 Vitamin D3 x 1 day

glatt · 09-15-2013, 02:01 PM

I even get a little bummed when it's so dark in the morning. But only in a regular "it sucks when the alarm clock goes off and it's pitch dark out" kind of way. I can only imagine how bad it would be to legitimately suffer from SAD. I'm sorry you are both dealing with it in your own way.

09-14-2013, 09:59 PM	#1
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Having to watch others in pain This is one of the hardest things. My oldest son has had his seasonal affective (mood, depressive) symptoms descend on him as the days shorten. He's withdrawing socially, not sleeping, struggling. He's had more than one psychotic depression in the past. He called me tonight because he'd promised, several months ago, to keep the lines of communication open. He has been suicidal before, most recently this year. I'm in the same area for the next six weeks, but what after that? Should I move to the DC area? I hate to think of being far away and unable to be there in a crisis. There are other major crises looming with my other three children. It looks like being a very rocky fall. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

09-14-2013, 11:46 PM	#4
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	What choco said. t often happens that all the troubles seem to come at once. We're just coming out the other side of a similar period in our family. You will get there ortho. Xxx __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

09-15-2013, 05:38 AM	#5
Griff still says videotape Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 26,813	Sorry guys, be strong. __________________ If you would only recognize that life is hard, things would be so much easier for you. - Louis D. Brandeis

09-15-2013, 08:33 AM	#6
orthodoc Not Suspicious, Merely Canadian Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 3,774	Thanks. Things do seem to come in waves. __________________ The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated. - Ghandi

09-15-2013, 10:36 AM	#8
Nirvana Back in 10 Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 3,684	Long time SAD sufferer and the only thing that worked for me was 5 - 10,000 Vitamin D3 x 1 day __________________ Speaking simply... do not confuse this with having a simple mind.

09-14-2013, 10:18 PM	#2
Chocolatl Glutton for Gluttony Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Tampa, FL Posts: 1,409	Wishing you and yours strength and peace, ortho.

09-14-2013, 11:44 PM	#3
Perry Winkle Esnohplad Semaj Ton Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: A little south of sanity Posts: 2,259	Sorry your son is in pain. I have the same issue and I hate putting my parents and wife through it every year. I keep thinking it might be a good argument for making the move to a more southerly clime, even if there is otherwise a quality of life hit. But the depression started a couple of weeks ago and there will be no more clear thought on my part until Mayish.

09-15-2013, 10:17 AM	#7
Lamplighter Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Bottom lands of the Missoula floods Posts: 6,402	Light panels ? Melatonin ? Anti-depressants ?

09-15-2013, 02:01 PM	#9
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	I even get a little bummed when it's so dark in the morning. But only in a regular "it sucks when the alarm clock goes off and it's pitch dark out" kind of way. I can only imagine how bad it would be to legitimately suffer from SAD. I'm sorry you are both dealing with it in your own way.

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