What's making you a tad apprehensive today?

[zippyt]

It sounds like they need to put zippy on the rack.

if its Any consolation the doc said every now and then they break an arm doing this

[Griff]

[HungLikeJesus]

Just hope they don't mean right now.

[it]

Originally Posted by glatt

well, good luck. I hope it works out for you.

thanks. it probably won't and either way i am not expecting a response for a very long while, if ever. but it was a good shot, and a good gamble, and i would rather live with that then living without trying.

[Griff]

Sometimes its important to put yourself out there, good luck.

[it]

so yesterday i emailed my wife the biggest mother f' apology of all times, with every bit of understanding of her side of every uresolved conflict we ever had that i could master of my own, and how if i understood it then i could have done things differently... continuing with how much she means to me...

based on my rough calculations of her scheduale (can't believe how much i remember her habits) i doubt she had time to check her email since... but she should today.

and i'm extremely apprehensive about it all. in the first few weeks straight after the seperation i was so furious i've attacked her on every level... am i being rediculesly stupid thinking that i still have a chance?

[BigV]

It takes two, man.

You mentioned you got some good out of some of my divorce related posts. There are plenty of them here, including ones with apologies, ones with calculations, etc. So far, you haven't done anything I haven't done.

A chance? Sure, there's always a chance. But if you just move the needle back to the start of the record, you're gonna find the same skips and pops; it's the same song. Until you're both singing a different song, you'll never have a different ending.

[classicman]

Very well said, V.

[BigV]

thanks. don't we know it...

[classicman]

yeh - - - ain't that the truth.
I tried to help early on, but then remembered we all have to walk our own path at our own pace.

[it]

Originally Posted by BigV

It takes two, man.

You mentioned you got some good out of some of my divorce related posts. There are plenty of them here, including ones with apologies, ones with calculations, etc. So far, you haven't done anything I haven't done.

A chance? Sure, there's always a chance. But if you just move the needle back to the start of the record, you're gonna find the same skips and pops; it's the same song. Until you're both singing a different song, you'll never have a different ending.

i dont' think i remember seen posts of apologies... i wouldn't mind to try and learn from them.

as for the song, honestly so much of what i blamed her for was behaviors that in retrospect i pushed her into... sure, either one of us could have handled things differently to stop our little co-destructive cycles, but for me at least i was too close to actually see what i was causing. in a normal relationship i could have just moved out for awhile to figure things out, but with the immigration thing and not being able to legally work this wasn't a normal relationship.

and there's a lot more - i didn't know what i needed. for example without having a little space for myself, even just a desk, i find myself intellectually stunted...
and i am generally a very extraverted person, so not knowing anybody, not having a framework i can make social connections in, was bloody killing me.

i think after having had the space to figure things out, that if i would go into it in a position of power - and by power i reallly just mean financial independence - we could actually make it work and make each other happy.

but so far no answer... nothing.

[ZenGum]

Only a tad apprehensive, but:

My office is here. Through that door is another department with a mini-kitchen - sink, fridge, microwave. I can use it (mostly to fill my water bottle).

On the sink is a carton of milk. It is half full. It has been there for at least two days, possibly more.

The use by date is January 27th.

There is NO WAY I am touching that thing.

I wonder how long it will fester.

[footfootfoot]

What would be stupendous would be to empty it out, rinse it, and re-fill it to the same quantity with fresh milk every day. If anyone ever checks it, it'll smell fine. Or you could just wait until a bunch of people are there and drink it in front of them. Then take the next two days off. Everyone there will vouch for you--they saw you drink it.

[HungLikeJesus]

Take it home and put it in your refrigerator.

Bring it back next January.

Leave it in the work refrigerator.

[BigV]

will never work
you need to have people read the expire date and then be grossed out and then put it back for the gag (ha ha ) to have the desired effect.
think about it
you put up a sign saying wet paint, every body has to touch it to see.

you put up a carton that says weeks/years old, someone's gonna smell it, signifying nothing bad.

would be funny, but tough to pull off. good luck.