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Old 08-12-2014, 10:33 AM   #16
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I don't know. Maybe we all should just remain ignorant about depression. Let's pretend it doesn't exist and maybe it'll go away.

Also, we should make those who make mention of increasing awareness and education when suicide rears its ugly head feel really really bad about doing that. Let's even get angry at them. Because that is also helpful.
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Old 08-12-2014, 10:57 AM   #17
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I am sorry if my post prompted your reply, Infi. That was not my intention. We are all hurting in different ways right now, as a result of the death of Robin Williams. I had no intention of increasing your, or anyone else's hurt.
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Old 08-12-2014, 11:11 AM   #18
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No, it was just the whole thing in general. I'm in a weird place. I should shut up. Sorry.

I've never known you to be unkind. Me, however...

eta: I also was reading the CNN comments. Most were nice, but there were some mean things...I shouldn't have brought those feelings here.
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Old 08-12-2014, 11:25 AM   #19
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I think a lot of us are in a weird place right now
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Old 08-12-2014, 02:14 PM   #20
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I'm going to try to articulate this, and probably fail, so please forgive me if I offend because that's not my intention...

I get the distinct impression that when people (not you, infi) angrily point out that people should have been aware of Suicide Victim's depression, or taken it more seriously, the only thing they are really saying is, "Why can't you see that I, too, am seriously depressed?" They are afraid that eventually it will be them who is mourned after the fact.

The thing is, raising awareness among the non-depressed does nothing. There really isn't a mainstream stigma around depression anymore, except that which the depressed person creates for themselves, because their depression lies to them in that way just like so many others. It doesn't help at all for Happy Joe to be thinking about how serious or prevalent depression is. It probably makes it worse, in fact, because non-depressed people are notorious for offering counterproductive advice to depressed people. The only effective message is going to be from those who have been there before, to those who are there now: "Depression lies. People love you. Here is where to get help." The message has to go inward to the community, not outward.
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Old 08-12-2014, 02:58 PM   #21
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Really good points there Clod.

I would add though - whilst depression per se doesn't have the same stigma that it used to - elements of how depression affects people probably do carry a stigma. So - if one of the symptoms of your depression is an absolute incapability of doing relatively simple things like make a phone call or post a letter, whilst you are still able to do much more demanding things like attend a class or go into work - that sort of thing people just think is laziness.

One of the problems with depression is its specificity. It affects people differently and what might seem straightforward - washing the pots or emailing a query to the bank can take on mountainous proportions. For some people depression means total incapacity - for some it means that they carry on doing the things they absolutely have to do to get by, but everything else piles up around them and they are basically looking at the world through a transparent barrier. Or things are just bleak and colourless....empty.

There are so many ways to experience depression and too many people think that if you are not completely unable to do anything, or you are not in the depths of despair then you are not depressed. But despair is a very strong emotion - and sometimes you're just too empty for that kind of feeling.

I think a lot of people, and probably not many on here to be fair, because we've been on a journey as a community and lots of people have shared aspects of their depression and how it affects them - but a lot of people just don't really understand what depression is.

And even those of us who do have some understanding and insight into depression - from our own or others' experiences - still only have a partial picture and may still not know how best to respond to someone else's unique experience of it.
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Old 08-12-2014, 05:33 PM   #22
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Those are all very good points, both Clodfobble and Dana. It is so very complex. And depression lies lies lies like a dog. So, it is very hard to tell what, or more importantly, who...is real.

You both said it better than I ever could. But Dana...thank you for this:

...elements of how depression affects people probably do carry a stigma. So - if one of the symptoms of your depression is an absolute incapability of doing relatively simple things like make a phone call or post a letter, whilst you are still able to do much more demanding things like attend a class or go into work - that sort of thing people just think is laziness.

I haven't heard anyone say they understand that specificity before. And I'd not really thought of it that way myself, though it fits me to a T.

It's all so hard to sort out.
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Old 08-12-2014, 05:57 PM   #23
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There is a very real thing where suicides are contagious. And the CDC actually studied this problem about 20 years ago and came up with some things for the media and officials to avoid when talking about somebody who took their life, lest others who are struggling become copy cats.
Same thing for mass shootings.
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Old 08-12-2014, 08:33 PM   #24
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I'm not sure there's any good answer to the conundrum. We are all grieving and trying to make sense of the death of someone who gave us so much joy, laughter, awe ... and make sense of the fact that, in spite of how much he made us feel better, he was in such pain that he chose to end his life. We wonder what we could've, should've done.

The answer is: nothing. When someone is that depressed, it is nearly impossible to stop a suicide. A severely depressed person will join in a family reunion picnic, joke with everyone, play with the kids, and then walk up the path to the cottage and use a shotgun to end his life. Depression, at that level, doesn't manifest itself in overt sadness, or anything that most people would recognize as 'depression'.

If a suicide is prevented, it's often more by luck than by design. That's how depression is. It has a 15% mortality rate.

A confidential example (as confidential as can be here): one of my meds post-chemo gave me major depression. Over a few weeks, I descended to the point of planning and being angry that my first few choices weren't immediately available. Then, one morning as I opened the garage door before starting my car, I smacked my forehead and thought, Of Course! I can just start the car and NOT open the door. I held it to myself as I went off to work, knowing that I had that option when night fell. For the day, I would see my patients and do my academic work and fulfill my obligations. Sing Happy Birthday to the staff member turning 48 and wear a funny hat, chat with everyone, take care of people, and come home to my option.

I stopped the med the day that I had that thought, and the depression and suicidal thoughts lifted quickly. But I understand how you can appear 'normal' in public while planning your death in the next few hours. It's not a matter of will; it's biochemical, and it's almost irresistible. For Robin Williams, my love and sympathy.
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Old 08-13-2014, 09:17 AM   #25
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Well, Abe Vigoda is (still) alive.

That's sumthin, anyway.
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Old 08-13-2014, 01:01 PM   #26
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...Depression lies. People love you.
Therein lies the problem. We believe depression.

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Here is where to get help....
Getting help isn't easy. Even with my excellent insurance, counselling and meds are like a car payment every month. It would be financial suicide to "go away" for awhile. No income now, no job later.

It's not easy
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Old 10-04-2016, 11:31 AM   #27
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I just saw this today. Maybe it's old news and everybody already knows.

Yes, Robin Williams had a history of struggling with depression. But I didn't realize that an autopsy showed he wasn't struggling with depression when he took his own life. He had Lewy Body Disease. It was an undiagnosed neurological disease that causes behavioral changes. His autopsy showed a massive proliferation of Lewy bodies throughout his brain. Virtually every neuron in his brain was affected. Lewy bodies are where a normally occurring protein in the brain clumps in an unnatural way and interrupts brain activity. They cause Parkinsons Disease and also Lewy Body Disease. The link above is an article written by Robin's wife, explaining his symptoms and how the diagnosis was missed. I thought it was a good article.

I couldn't help but think of my own cousin with dementia who passed away recently, and also the millions of people with alzheimers. Both are slightly different neurological diseases, but are similar in that they basically turn the brain into swiss cheese.
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Old 10-04-2016, 11:58 AM   #28
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Scary.
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Old 10-04-2016, 04:02 PM   #29
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I'm pretty sure that my mother had Lewy Body Dementia misdiagnosed as Parkinson's. She had the paranoia, the hallucinations, the dropping in and out of reality, the depression, the awareness that her brain was crumbling, and very little of the motor issues that typify Parkinson's disease.


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