Belives of Love - Page 2

Aliantha · 07-01-2010, 07:33 PM

Sage advice already in this thread. I only have lyrics to add.

Speaking for myself, if I'd married any of the blokes I thought I was 'truly in love with' I'd have been divorced about 10 times by now. I know I love my husband, and I knew after our first date we'd be together for the long haul, but there was no crazy mad 'in love' silliness involved ever. We just loved each other from the start and I think we always will.

Shawnee123 · 07-01-2010, 07:39 PM

That is a nice post, Ali. I too have been around that block. Crazy mad in love is nice...what is nicer is contentment and feeling safe with the other person. Love is a conscious decision, a choice, a "for the long haul" will this person be what I need? Crazy love only lasts so long, is this long-lasting?

I was talking to married friends last night, and I mentioned "oh, we've all only been married once." They corrected me: she had been married 6 times and he had been married 3 times.

I forgot that. That's crazy talk! I can't imagine being married again, but if I ever am, it will be a better decision for ME than the one I made lo those many years ago. Not that I would change any of it. The love I felt is still there, in the form of friendship, which is what we were both good at with each other anyway. Still, it took me a long time to get involved again, with all the shields and walls one might expect.
The wait was worth it.

HungLikeJesus · 07-01-2010, 08:46 PM

That's nice to hear, S.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-02-2010, 12:35 AM

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Shawnee123 · 07-02-2010, 07:14 AM

Hahahahaa...some of us women reach a stage where the manipulative bad boy is a complete bore (we're on to you), as is the namby-pamby ass kisser guy (quit crying, I'm just going to the store, been doing it my whole life, I'll be fine). Just be REAL. That is all.

Queen of the Ryche · 07-03-2010, 10:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Shawnee123

Hahahahaa...some of us women reach a stage where the manipulative bad boy is a complete bore (we're on to you), as is the namby-pamby ass kisser guy (quit crying, I'm just going to the store, been doing it my whole life, I'll be fine). Just be REAL. That is all.

I'm still looking for a little of both without either to the extreme though...

toranokaze · 07-21-2010, 05:42 AM

I was in love and I believed at the time that we were going to be together forever.

But as life does things did not go as I foresaw. Everything fell apart I did all that I could do everything that could be asked and more, however, my best just wasn't good enough.

I guess somethings can not be fixed.

Adrift as sea on a starless night no lighthouse for me; I need to learn truly how to live and to always be able to count myself.
One day I will find land and make a home till then I shall live on stenght and faith alone, fighting each day.

Shawnee123 · 07-21-2010, 08:18 AM

I can't listen to that song. It makes me weepy.

toranokaze · 07-22-2010, 10:01 PM

I do love Joni's work that song is true beauty.

It sums up my life right now

07-01-2010, 07:33 PM	#16
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Sage advice already in this thread. I only have lyrics to add. Speaking for myself, if I'd married any of the blokes I thought I was 'truly in love with' I'd have been divorced about 10 times by now. I know I love my husband, and I knew after our first date we'd be together for the long haul, but there was no crazy mad 'in love' silliness involved ever. We just loved each other from the start and I think we always will. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

07-01-2010, 07:39 PM	#17
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	That is a nice post, Ali. I too have been around that block. Crazy mad in love is nice...what is nicer is contentment and feeling safe with the other person. Love is a conscious decision, a choice, a "for the long haul" will this person be what I need? Crazy love only lasts so long, is this long-lasting? I was talking to married friends last night, and I mentioned "oh, we've all only been married once." They corrected me: she had been married 6 times and he had been married 3 times. I forgot that. That's crazy talk! I can't imagine being married again, but if I ever am, it will be a better decision for ME than the one I made lo those many years ago. Not that I would change any of it. The love I felt is still there, in the form of friendship, which is what we were both good at with each other anyway. Still, it took me a long time to get involved again, with all the shields and walls one might expect. The wait was worth it. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

07-01-2010, 08:46 PM	#18
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	That's nice to hear, S. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

07-02-2010, 12:35 AM	#19
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	. Attached Images __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

07-02-2010, 07:14 AM	#20
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Hahahahaa...some of us women reach a stage where the manipulative bad boy is a complete bore (we're on to you), as is the namby-pamby ass kisser guy (quit crying, I'm just going to the store, been doing it my whole life, I'll be fine). Just be REAL. That is all. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby Last edited by Shawnee123; 07-02-2010 at 07:22 AM.

07-21-2010, 05:42 AM	#22
toranokaze I'm still a jerk Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Little Mexico Posts: 1,817	I was in love and I believed at the time that we were going to be together forever. But as life does things did not go as I foresaw. Everything fell apart I did all that I could do everything that could be asked and more, however, my best just wasn't good enough. I guess somethings can not be fixed. Adrift as sea on a starless night no lighthouse for me; I need to learn truly how to live and to always be able to count myself. One day I will find land and make a home till then I shall live on stenght and faith alone, fighting each day. __________________ "Without deviation from the norm progress is not possible." - Frank Zappa It is the ignorance of ignorance that lead to the death of knowledge The Virgin Mary does not weep for her son, for he is in paradise. She weeps for the world , for we are in suffering.

07-21-2010, 08:18 AM	#23
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	I can't listen to that song. It makes me weepy. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

07-22-2010, 10:01 PM	#24
toranokaze I'm still a jerk Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Little Mexico Posts: 1,817	I do love Joni's work that song is true beauty. It sums up my life right now __________________ "Without deviation from the norm progress is not possible." - Frank Zappa It is the ignorance of ignorance that lead to the death of knowledge The Virgin Mary does not weep for her son, for he is in paradise. She weeps for the world , for we are in suffering.

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