What's the Best Question to ask on the First Date?

[orthodoc]

Whoa, foot3, you never let on you were part of the Belieber's entourage.

I'm with wolf. A complete history/MS exam answers most questions. The physical can wait 'til later.

[footfootfoot]

Ha ha Ortho! I guess they didn't import Cheech and Chong to Canadia.

[orthodoc]

I'm probably the only person in the western hemisphere who hasn't seen it.

[footfootfoot]

Or heard it.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Bambu

[Molasar]

Originally Posted by orthodoc

I'm probably the only person in the western hemisphere who hasn't seen it.

if UK counts as Western Hemisphere then that's two of us.
odds and sods of clips - yes, the whole thing - no.

[Sheldonrs]

I had "Big Bamboo" on 8 Track tape.

[footfootfoot]

I almost forgot "Dave's not Here"

[BardoXV]

There are no good questions for the first date. If it goes to the 2nd or 3rd date there will be time enough for questions.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Then how do you fill the time on the first date?

[BardoXV]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Then how do you fill the time on the first date?

If you will note the title was for the "best question" and my comment referred to "good questions", there are lots of bad questions, but the acceptable questions are the ones that come up naturally in conversation. Questions that are planed ahead will just lead to stiff and unnatural conversation. If you go on a date with a list of questions in your pocket, there is unlikely to be a second date, or sex on the first.

There are also things that you shouldn't say on a first date, or early in the relationship. I was dating a woman right after I had separated from my first wife, and she made the comment that she evaluates every man she dates as husband material. That was like waving a red flag at me. and some time later I called the relationship off. I now realize that I could have been happily married to her, but for that unfortunate comment at that time.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Yeah, you were understandably gun shy at that point.
Nobody was suggesting a list of written questions. The point of the thread was to determine what information you would need to evaluate potential compatibility or conflict, and do it without wasting too much time or resources. Of course everybody has different concerns and priorities.

Hands down, first question, on the first date... Yo Babe, bring enough cash to entertain me in a manner to which I'd like to become accustomed?

[BardoXV]

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Yeah, you were understandably gun shy at that point.
Nobody was suggesting a list of written questions. The point of the thread was to determine what information you would need to evaluate potential compatibility or conflict, and do it without wasting too much time or resources. Of course everybody has different concerns and priorities.

Hands down, first question, on the first date... Yo Babe, bring enough cash to entertain me in a manner to which I'd like to become accustomed?

That question would certainly narrow the choices.

As far as wasting time, sometimes just being with another person is enough. If your time is that valuable (to you) perhaps you shouldn't be wasting it dating in the first place.

It reminds me of a conversation I had with someone about a hobby, and he stated that his time was too valuable to spend on certain activities. My thought was that your time is worth nothing unless someone is willing to pay you for it, and then only what they will pay, regardless how much you might ask.

[Griff]

How about, "Do you clean bathrooms?'

[BardoXV]

Originally Posted by Griff

How about, "Do you clean bathrooms?'

That is definitely a question SHE should ask.

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by BardoXV

As far as wasting time, sometimes just being with another person is enough. If your time is that valuable (to you) perhaps you shouldn't be wasting it dating in the first place.

Depends on what you are using dating for.
A means to get out of the house and/or a free meal/movie? I'd guess most people consider dating as part of the mate selection process. No reason not to discard that moonlight walks on the beach bullshit up front, to do it in the most efficient way you're comfortable with.

It reminds me of a conversation I had with someone about a hobby, and he stated that his time was too valuable to spend on certain activities. My thought was that your time is worth nothing unless someone is willing to pay you for it, and then only what they will pay, regardless how much you might ask.

That's where you're stone fucking wrong. His time is the most valuable thing he has, it makes diamonds and gold look shabby.