What's upsetting you today? - Page 515

HungLikeJesus · 03-19-2012, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by classicman

I'm doing manual labor.

Isn't he the president of Mexico?

classicman · 03-19-2012, 07:14 PM

no - Thats Emanuelle Labor'

infinite monkey · 03-20-2012, 09:36 AM

I sent the email. Actually, resent the one from Mar 02, with the updated spreadsheet and a new message.

Even the spreadsheet has the original date and is named "updated 0320."

We'll see.

Sigh...

DanaC · 03-20-2012, 10:46 AM

Sounds bloody miserable, Infi. I totally sympathise.

Sundae · 03-20-2012, 11:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Sundae - I reckon you've had enough time to bitch and moan about this problem. Maybe it's time to get the shit off the liver and say what you need to say to the relevant people, then get on with the job of helping your niece. She's going to need your love and support a lot more than your resentment, and although it doesn't happen often, I tend to agree with monsters post above even if it does sound a bit harsh.

I am done "bitching and moaning". In fact if Monster hadn't posted something I felt warranted an acknowledgement and furth explanation I would have written even less.

I doubt they want my love or support, but it will be on offer anyway.

HungLikeJesus · 03-20-2012, 12:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by infinite monkey

I sent the email. Actually, resent the one from Mar 02, with the updated spreadsheet and a new message.

Even the spreadsheet has the original date and is named "updated 0320."

We'll see.

Sigh...

What do you resent?

Oh, you resent it? Was it recent, the one you resent?

infinite monkey · 03-20-2012, 01:23 PM

Sorry. Typo. I meant "reazent" which means "to smack a smartass in the face, with gusto."

limey · 03-20-2012, 01:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sundae

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I doubt they want my love or support, but it will be on offer anyway.

Of course they do, you silly numpty!

Aliantha · 03-20-2012, 07:44 PM

Sorry Sundae. xx

I agree with limey above though.

bluecuracao · 03-20-2012, 08:48 PM

The job I was supposed to start this week fell through. Next time, I think I will keep my lip zipped until I'm at least a full week in.

ZenGum · 03-20-2012, 09:23 PM

Awww CRAP.

monster · 03-20-2012, 09:28 PM

Sundae, you will be invaluable to your niece. Do what you do best. Offer your shopping services. With her money for what she wants, getting the best deals as you know how. Shopping is one of the hardest things to do with 3-month-olds. Encourage her to invite her friends around, and bake cakes for her to serve.

"Offer love and support"? Either you love and you are there for her or you are not. No-one else can dictate that, it cannot be "stopped", it's not something to be "offered", it is unconditional. That said, it may not be well received. tough cookies for them. You love her, you're going to be there for her. period.

Why do you not see her breastfeeding? This is such a money saver as well as best for the baby. Even if you are revolted by the idea, it's surely in her best interest to try, so maybe you can be supportive there -I suspect from what you are saying (although i could be extrapolating wildly) that the family is not going to be supportive on that.... maybe because she's still their little girl and they can't even think of her having boobs never mind using them? She's going to need a strong advocate if she's going to try.

The list is endless. But what she doesn't need is to feel antagonism within the family. If what you can help her with is contrary to what the rest of the family thinks is a good idea, you need to just separate/back off a little bit from the family rather than stay close and get stressed about it. IMO

zippyt · 03-20-2012, 09:33 PM

Monstah be wise !!

Sundae · 03-21-2012, 03:11 AM

Re breastfeeding - I am all for it. I worked for a midwife for three years, and we sold and rented expressers and pumps and all that jazz.

I'm working on the assumption that the rates are very low for teens, her Mum didn't breastfeed (she found the idea revolting) and it is a longer process than bottle feeding; having twins I think she might reject it out of hand as being too hard.

I have taken all advice from here on board. And I do intend to try to get closer to her.
Mum saw her last night at football. They didn't talk about it. My sis has still not told my brother. My BIL refused to enter the bar because the father was seen in there.

I'm not the only fruitloop in the family.
Anyway, I'll move this from the upset thread because I'm not.

Going to ask her when her scan is. She'll probably know the sex then (identical twins) so I can start looking for deals for her. I'm already on board re the pushchair. Not sure if she'll listen though. I'll be suggesting best advice for health and she might want to go for the once with the prettiest parasol. She wouldn't be the first

Aliantha · 03-21-2012, 03:14 AM

When you're finished with your niece you can come do all that for me.

You can be the live in nanny too if you like. I can't pay you, but I'll be very grateful.

03-19-2012, 07:14 PM	#7712
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	no - Thats Emanuelle Labor' __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

03-20-2012, 07:44 PM	#7719
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Sorry Sundae. xx I agree with limey above though. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

03-20-2012, 09:23 PM	#7721
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	Awww CRAP. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

03-20-2012, 09:28 PM	#7722
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Sundae, you will be invaluable to your niece. Do what you do best. Offer your shopping services. With her money for what she wants, getting the best deals as you know how. Shopping is one of the hardest things to do with 3-month-olds. Encourage her to invite her friends around, and bake cakes for her to serve. "Offer love and support"? Either you love and you are there for her or you are not. No-one else can dictate that, it cannot be "stopped", it's not something to be "offered", it is unconditional. That said, it may not be well received. tough cookies for them. You love her, you're going to be there for her. period. Why do you not see her breastfeeding? This is such a money saver as well as best for the baby. Even if you are revolted by the idea, it's surely in her best interest to try, so maybe you can be supportive there -I suspect from what you are saying (although i could be extrapolating wildly) that the family is not going to be supportive on that.... maybe because she's still their little girl and they can't even think of her having boobs never mind using them? She's going to need a strong advocate if she's going to try. The list is endless. But what she doesn't need is to feel antagonism within the family. If what you can help her with is contrary to what the rest of the family thinks is a good idea, you need to just separate/back off a little bit from the family rather than stay close and get stressed about it. IMO __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

03-20-2012, 09:33 PM	#7723
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	Monstah be wise !! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

03-20-2012, 09:36 AM	#7713
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	I sent the email. Actually, resent the one from Mar 02, with the updated spreadsheet and a new message. Even the spreadsheet has the original date and is named "updated 0320." We'll see. Sigh...

03-20-2012, 01:23 PM	#7717
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Sorry. Typo. I meant "reazent" which means "to smack a smartass in the face, with gusto."

03-20-2012, 08:48 PM	#7720
bluecuracao in a mood, not cupcake Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Philadelphia Posts: 3,034	The job I was supposed to start this week fell through. Next time, I think I will keep my lip zipped until I'm at least a full week in.

03-21-2012, 03:11 AM	#7724
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Re breastfeeding - I am all for it. I worked for a midwife for three years, and we sold and rented expressers and pumps and all that jazz. I'm working on the assumption that the rates are very low for teens, her Mum didn't breastfeed (she found the idea revolting) and it is a longer process than bottle feeding; having twins I think she might reject it out of hand as being too hard. I have taken all advice from here on board. And I do intend to try to get closer to her. Mum saw her last night at football. They didn't talk about it. My sis has still not told my brother. My BIL refused to enter the bar because the father was seen in there. I'm not the only fruitloop in the family. Anyway, I'll move this from the upset thread because I'm not. Going to ask her when her scan is. She'll probably know the sex then (identical twins) so I can start looking for deals for her. I'm already on board re the pushchair. Not sure if she'll listen though. I'll be suggesting best advice for health and she might want to go for the once with the prettiest parasol. She wouldn't be the first __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

03-21-2012, 03:14 AM	#7725
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	When you're finished with your niece you can come do all that for me. You can be the live in nanny too if you like. I can't pay you, but I'll be very grateful. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

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