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Old 04-11-2006, 08:25 AM   #16
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Well I guess it take all sorts - I think there is a lot to be said for bedroom compatibility (not at the exclusion of other areas of the relationship). All the Christian fraternity (am I on dodgy ground here) who promote no sex before marriage I have to say that I cant go with that view any more. I used to but not now. I ended up going to therapy because I was approached by another woman who "wanted me" and then withdrew the offer - but it screwed me up as she seemed to want me for me and I didn't have to work so hard at it and it hadn't been my experience in my marraige - I know thats only an initial thing and in time all relationships need working at but it made me think.
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Old 04-11-2006, 08:24 PM   #17
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sharpless, thinking (trying to figure women out) always leads to needing therapy.
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Old 04-11-2006, 08:27 PM   #18
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Dear god I can't wait until I'm not pregnant anymore. You people with your once-a-week-ness are making me jealous. What I want and what is physically possible are two very different things at this point.
Don't you know about the "relaxing" way to ?
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Old 04-12-2006, 09:51 PM   #19
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Um... I guess not? My problem isn't being unable to relax, it's being unable to fit into preferred positions.
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Old 04-12-2006, 11:02 PM   #20
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Old 04-13-2006, 12:16 AM   #21
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I don't get laid, I'm abstinent. So, I'm no help here.
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Old 04-13-2006, 12:22 AM   #22
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... it's being unable to fit into preferred positions.
Opposite of TMI.
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Old 04-13-2006, 06:55 AM   #23
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Um... I guess not? My problem isn't being unable to relax, it's being unable to fit into preferred positions.
You'd best find a non-preferred position right now because after birthing you're going to have a stretch of time where sex is not on your list of priorities.
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Old 04-13-2006, 11:49 PM   #24
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I wouldn't worry about the initiating. If you talk ask her too. If she is willing more than once a week after so many years you may get more than most? Not sure. Maybe the ones with good sex lifes don't talk about it? You know out here in the real world.

Candid ? ok I am going to try not to be embarrassed. I don't know if I am a typical woman because don't do sex talk with other women. I am a reserved nice lady on the outside but passionate under the covers, or on.


I am choosey about partners.I must feel attraction or love or lust to have multiple orgazims. I can have multiple orgazims and vaginally although I know what rote sex feels like. I don't like fake dongs. I don't know about anyother kind of toys. Maybe some I would like maybe some not. I don't have any experience in that but I think there are enough parts on the human body to feel satisfied without them. I am not a prude.You should beable to tell by my candidness. I think kinky is good but most guys can't execute it well so that's a turn off. I can talk about anything and certain taboo thoughts are a turn on. Some are a turn off.



Lastly, I am abstaining from sex. Or rather intimate relationships and since I don't come on to strangers for one night stands ...I stay sexless. .and of course I am a mother working two jobs. What does this have to do with sex? Everything! Everything. Even health as said. Presently I am going through a low thyroid jag which leaves me feeling really fatigued but I still have the desire although luckily I havn't had to test stanima.If I was in a relationship right now I would want to but I don't think I could be much of a contributor. Maybe he would feel badly and take it personally?



one strange thing that I don't understand is why I get the munchys after good sex. I'm not sure why.
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Old 04-14-2006, 01:25 PM   #25
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[quote=skysidhe] although I know what rote sex feels like. QUOTE]

Wow - that was interesting tho not sure what rote is - or is it a spelling mistake - don't matter if it is my spelling is awful. I feel for you - sounds like you have your hands ful and I know its hard enough bringing up kids with a partener let alone on your own with jobs and more....... What do you mean by kinky - hard to pull it off for guys - guys are rubbish at so much - it astounds me and I think I'm quite good in the bedroom but still worry about getting it right and I know that can be a turn off in its self, but noting worse than being confident and getting it so so wrong.... we must speak more - you sound interesting skysidhe!
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Old 04-14-2006, 08:22 PM   #26
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rote;
1 - A memorizing process using routine or repetition, often without full attention or comprehension: learn by rote.

2 - Mechanical routine.
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Old 04-15-2006, 11:09 AM   #27
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Old 04-17-2006, 05:26 AM   #28
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Um... I guess not? My problem isn't being unable to relax, it's being unable to fit into preferred positions.
There are hundreds of positions! You only need to pick one. variety is the spice of life. and what griff says, you are going to have to be super horny just to be disinterested in sex after your postnatal hormones kick in.
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Old 04-17-2006, 05:28 AM   #29
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one strange thing that I don't understand is why I get the munchys after good sex. I'm not sure why.
Most likely it's from the bong hit you took before you had sex.

blood sugar sex magic?
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Old 04-29-2006, 07:46 AM   #30
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By the time I got through this thread, it wasn't remotely what the title said--but that's not a bad thing.

Just as another woman's opinion, there may be many reasons for Mrs. Sharpness' behavior--the most common being that she was brought up in an era before women discovered that sex was wonderful and enjoyable. Some of us get over it, some of us don't.
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