Dear Family - Page 7

Pete Zicato · 12-08-2011, 09:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Works both ways you know fellas.

True. And I make sure Mrs. Z knows how proud I am of her accomplishments.

Ok, it's true that Mrs. Z is an excellent baker and sometimes acknowledging her accomplishments means making yummy noises whilst shoveling in her made-from-scratch cinnamon rolls.

But I also listen and comment when she's telling me about what she learned in her ESL courses.

Clodfobble · 12-08-2011, 09:23 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by glatt

They used to be a bargain around here, but not so much any more. Now the only inexpensive schools are community colleges. Seriously considering community colleges for our kids though.

Some of them are really very good. (Of course some aren't, too, gotta do the research...) I have had more than one professional in the field say that they prefer nursing majors that come out of Austin Community College over the ones that come out of the University of Texas. The UT students are all book-learning, and sometimes their knowledge is even out of date by the time they graduate. The ACC students get hands-on experience starting in the second year, and are ready to jump right in.

infinite monkey · 12-08-2011, 09:25 AM

Ding ding ding.

My school of employment was recognized as an example to CCs everywhere in the NYT.

They do amazing things these days, the CCs.

monster · 02-09-2012, 07:14 PM

Dear Tiger Parents,

your honor roll kids told you Facebook was a networking site for prestigious college scholarships, didn't they?

TheMercenary · 02-09-2012, 07:20 PM

A great bumper sticker:

"My kids sold your Tiger Parents to the Zoo."

Aliantha · 02-09-2012, 07:58 PM

Dear husband,

I want you to try and remember realistically, the reasons why we decided to sell Wynnum Road, and I mean really put yourself back there and remember honestly rather than with your hindsight view of what might have been better if we’d known what was about to happen.

Then I’d like you to remember that in the end we moved from Gatling Rd because I told you I couldn’t stand to be there anymore, and even you admitted that you realised why I felt that way after you had a week at home with the problems (I can’t remember how that came about, but it did). Do you recall saying that or have you forgotten? Do you remember me saying to you that I don’t care where we go, but we just need to go somewhere. Do you remember that you were the one that chose Jacobs Well? Do you remember having the final say on this house? Do you remember me consulting with you through the whole process? Yes I know I wanted this house, but I didn’t force you to agree to it, and I asked you if you were happy with the choice and you said yes. I didn’t ask you to lift a finger except for your personal belongings with regard to the move. I managed it completely without any help from you. All you had to do was go to work from one house and come home to another and if you remember correctly, I had the house looking very much like a home by the time you got there.

Do I sometimes think about the choices we’ve made and think we could have done better? Yes I do, but I’m sensible enough to realise that we made the best decision we could at the time with the knowledge and resources we had at hand. Do you think I don’t wish we didn’t have this mortgage over our heads? Do you think I don’t want it gone? Do you think I sit here all day in fucking la la land thinking everything is perfect? If you do, you mustn’t think very much of my intelligence at all, and that’s a big problem.

I want you to remember that at no time did I hold a gun to your head about any of these decisions. I’ve always consulted fully with you on all of them. I want you to also think about the fact that your hatred of my brother was a big part of the reason we needed to leave Wynnum Rd. I don’t blame you for that. I understand why you felt or feel the way you do and I don’t hold it over your head do I? What would be the point of it if I did? Would it make anything better? I doubt it. I think it would only make things worse.

I think you need to wake up to the fact that I am not the problem here, but if you still want to consider me as one, then the solution to that is very clear to me, but I’m not going to live the rest of my life with you blaming me for stress that you insist on carrying around.

If you want to sell this house and go elsewhere fine. I will do it, but I think it will be a mistake and will end up costing us more. That much I have learned from the last time we moved house. Still I will do the best I can if that’s what you want to do.

The doctor has already warned me that I need to be subjected to as little stress and anxiety as possible during this pregnancy or I’m likely to end up in hospital for the whole of the third trimester. If you think that’s an objectionable outcome, then I suggest you find a way to get rid of these issues post haste. Make a decision and then accept the consequences, but don’t dare blame me for the outcome if it happens to be one you don’t like.

Just so we’re clear, if you can’t get over issues from the past, whether they’re real or imagined, we have a huge problem. I can not live my life with someone who constantly carries around resentment over things that happened years ago and that I cannot change now even if I wanted to. I can only say how I feel about those things in hindsight and explain why I felt the way I did at the time. I CAN’T CHANGE WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST AND NOR CAN YOU NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT GIVES YOU THE SHITS, so if you can’t reconcile all of that, then there are not too many choices left.

Your loving wife.
xxx

PS. In case you’re wondering why I don’t constantly worry about the debt we have, I can only say that I accept the debt as part of our reality and think the solution is to work towards lowering it. I don’t believe that choosing to worry about it during every waking moment is likely to change that reality. There are better things in life to spend my time thinking about.

monster · 02-09-2012, 08:03 PM

Dear Mr. Aliantha

Srsly?

Aliantha · 02-09-2012, 08:08 PM

srsly is that how I feel or? Not sure what you're srsly asking there.

monster · 02-09-2012, 08:12 PM

I was kinda thinking Mr. Aliantha needs not to be pulling this shit right now

Clodfobble · 02-09-2012, 08:17 PM

Dear Aliantha,

You are completely right. I'm very sorry. Here, I made you some tea, and I want you to put your feet up while I put Max to bed. Later, I will massage your feet.

Love, Dazza.

Aliantha · 02-09-2012, 08:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by monster

I was kinda thinking Mr. Aliantha needs not to be pulling this shit right now

Right. Yes that's what I was thinking.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Dear Aliantha,

You are completely right. I'm very sorry. Here, I made you some tea, and I want you to put your feet up while I put Max to bed. Later, I will massage your feet.

Love, Dazza.

Oh only in my dreams. lol

BTW, I did actually send that as an email to him at work. I think it needs to be out there.

No response as yet, but we'll see how it goes.

I know why he's doing it. He's just having a panic attack about the baby and the changes we have to make to the house etc, but he needs to stop being such a prick about it.

classicman · 02-09-2012, 08:53 PM

Give him time...

monster · 02-09-2012, 08:55 PM

give him some slack....

Aliantha · 02-09-2012, 08:55 PM

I'll give him plenty of time if he doesn't get it together. I can't take this shit right now.

eta: I'll just take Max and spend my time at Dad's place. the only issue with that is the big boys might feel abandoned, so it's not the best option, but if I have to do it for the sake of my health I will.

monster · 02-09-2012, 08:56 PM

Dear Catz,

Plz uz dickshonry

02-09-2012, 07:14 PM	#94
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Dear Tiger Parents, your honor roll kids told you Facebook was a networking site for prestigious college scholarships, didn't they? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-09-2012, 07:20 PM	#95
TheMercenary “Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo” Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Savannah, Georgia Posts: 21,393	A great bumper sticker: "My kids sold your Tiger Parents to the Zoo." __________________ Anyone but the this most fuked up President in History in 2012!

02-09-2012, 07:58 PM	#96
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Dear husband, I want you to try and remember realistically, the reasons why we decided to sell Wynnum Road, and I mean really put yourself back there and remember honestly rather than with your hindsight view of what might have been better if we’d known what was about to happen. Then I’d like you to remember that in the end we moved from Gatling Rd because I told you I couldn’t stand to be there anymore, and even you admitted that you realised why I felt that way after you had a week at home with the problems (I can’t remember how that came about, but it did). Do you recall saying that or have you forgotten? Do you remember me saying to you that I don’t care where we go, but we just need to go somewhere. Do you remember that you were the one that chose Jacobs Well? Do you remember having the final say on this house? Do you remember me consulting with you through the whole process? Yes I know I wanted this house, but I didn’t force you to agree to it, and I asked you if you were happy with the choice and you said yes. I didn’t ask you to lift a finger except for your personal belongings with regard to the move. I managed it completely without any help from you. All you had to do was go to work from one house and come home to another and if you remember correctly, I had the house looking very much like a home by the time you got there. Do I sometimes think about the choices we’ve made and think we could have done better? Yes I do, but I’m sensible enough to realise that we made the best decision we could at the time with the knowledge and resources we had at hand. Do you think I don’t wish we didn’t have this mortgage over our heads? Do you think I don’t want it gone? Do you think I sit here all day in fucking la la land thinking everything is perfect? If you do, you mustn’t think very much of my intelligence at all, and that’s a big problem. I want you to remember that at no time did I hold a gun to your head about any of these decisions. I’ve always consulted fully with you on all of them. I want you to also think about the fact that your hatred of my brother was a big part of the reason we needed to leave Wynnum Rd. I don’t blame you for that. I understand why you felt or feel the way you do and I don’t hold it over your head do I? What would be the point of it if I did? Would it make anything better? I doubt it. I think it would only make things worse. I think you need to wake up to the fact that I am not the problem here, but if you still want to consider me as one, then the solution to that is very clear to me, but I’m not going to live the rest of my life with you blaming me for stress that you insist on carrying around. If you want to sell this house and go elsewhere fine. I will do it, but I think it will be a mistake and will end up costing us more. That much I have learned from the last time we moved house. Still I will do the best I can if that’s what you want to do. The doctor has already warned me that I need to be subjected to as little stress and anxiety as possible during this pregnancy or I’m likely to end up in hospital for the whole of the third trimester. If you think that’s an objectionable outcome, then I suggest you find a way to get rid of these issues post haste. Make a decision and then accept the consequences, but don’t dare blame me for the outcome if it happens to be one you don’t like. Just so we’re clear, if you can’t get over issues from the past, whether they’re real or imagined, we have a huge problem. I can not live my life with someone who constantly carries around resentment over things that happened years ago and that I cannot change now even if I wanted to. I can only say how I feel about those things in hindsight and explain why I felt the way I did at the time. I CAN’T CHANGE WHAT HAPPENED IN THE PAST AND NOR CAN YOU NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT GIVES YOU THE SHITS, so if you can’t reconcile all of that, then there are not too many choices left. Your loving wife. xxx PS. In case you’re wondering why I don’t constantly worry about the debt we have, I can only say that I accept the debt as part of our reality and think the solution is to work towards lowering it. I don’t believe that choosing to worry about it during every waking moment is likely to change that reality. There are better things in life to spend my time thinking about. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

02-09-2012, 08:03 PM	#97
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Dear Mr. Aliantha Srsly? __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-09-2012, 08:08 PM	#98
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	srsly is that how I feel or? Not sure what you're srsly asking there. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

12-08-2011, 09:25 AM	#93
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	Ding ding ding. My school of employment was recognized as an example to CCs everywhere in the NYT. They do amazing things these days, the CCs.

02-09-2012, 08:12 PM	#99
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	I was kinda thinking Mr. Aliantha needs not to be pulling this shit right now __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-09-2012, 08:17 PM	#100
Clodfobble UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Austin, TX Posts: 20,012	Dear Aliantha, You are completely right. I'm very sorry. Here, I made you some tea, and I want you to put your feet up while I put Max to bed. Later, I will massage your feet. Love, Dazza. __________________ My book My other book My spirit animal

02-09-2012, 08:53 PM	#102
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	Give him time... __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

02-09-2012, 08:55 PM	#103
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	give him some slack.... __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

02-09-2012, 08:55 PM	#104
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	I'll give him plenty of time if he doesn't get it together. I can't take this shit right now. eta: I'll just take Max and spend my time at Dad's place. the only issue with that is the big boys might feel abandoned, so it's not the best option, but if I have to do it for the sake of my health I will. __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

02-09-2012, 08:56 PM	#105
monster I hear them call the tide Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Perpetual Chaos Posts: 30,852	Dear Catz, Plz uz dickshonry __________________ The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart

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