The Cellar  

Go Back   The Cellar > Main > Home Base

Home Base A starting point, and place for threads don't seem to belong anywhere else

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 09-27-2018, 09:40 AM   #1
Clodfobble
UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Austin, TX
Posts: 18,939
Is this a lot?

How many people do you know who have died? Like, people you interacted with and knew--not celebrities, friends of friends, or relatives who died before you were born.

I just came up with 24 names, including three from the Cellar (Sundae, Brianna, and LadySycamore.) Obviously the number skyrockets as you get older, but for a 37-year-old that seems like a lot. Is it?
__________________
My book
My spirit animal
Clodfobble is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 10:31 AM   #2
captainhook455
Rapscallion
 
Join Date: Aug 2016
Posts: 1,208
Everyone I know who has died are still dead. I miss my parents of course, but I miss my grandfather the most. There was a boy hood friend who died at 26.
captainhook455 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 10:49 AM   #3
lumberjim
Token White Guy
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Posts: 24,107
tarheel, that needs to be printed on a T-shirt.


Everyone I know who has died are still dead



Amanda and I were just talking about this last night. I don't have anyone really close to me that's died yet. Grandparents, an Uncle, a work friend or two... maybe around 10-12 people ... probably way more if I widen the circle... but just people I was actively in touch with, it's not so many.
__________________
oh, no. wait. the opposite of that.
lumberjim is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 12:39 PM   #4
glatt
 
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Arlington, VA
Posts: 26,492
And of course Beest.

I don't know if it's a lot. Depends on how many people you know in the first place.

You have to figure that the rate will increase over time as you and all the people you know get older.

When people of your generation die, it's the most brutal. There have been a handful for me, and they suck. People leaving behind a spouse and kids who are still at home. It's not right. My cousin died when he was around 13. That's just bullshit right there. Tractor he was driving flipped on him.
glatt is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 01:23 PM   #5
Diaphone Jim
Lecturer
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 845
I'm 77 and it took about a minute to get to 24 names and certain there are twice that waiting for another minute.
Diaphone Jim is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 02:52 PM   #6
Clodfobble
UNDER CONDITIONAL MITIGATION
 
Join Date: Mar 2004
Location: Austin, TX
Posts: 18,939
Quote:
Originally Posted by glatt
And of course Beest.
Fuck, I'd mentally blocked that one; too recent. A lot of my family deaths are from colon cancer, it's a touchy subject around here.
__________________
My book
My spirit animal
Clodfobble is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 03:33 PM   #7
xoxoxoBruce
The future is unwritten
 
Join Date: Oct 2002
Posts: 63,843
At least three dozen.
__________________
Everything is interesting... look closer.
xoxoxoBruce is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 04:25 PM   #8
Undertoad
Miserable contrarian
 
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Cottage of Prussia
Posts: 29,565
And Buster

My friend who died because she tried alternative medicine for her cancer, is the first really close friend who died. My father died when I was 3 but because of my early age it is a whole 'nother ball of wax.
Undertoad is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 06:11 PM   #9
sexobon
^it sings^
 
Join Date: Oct 2009
Posts: 7,844
Between the guys I knew in the military who were killed and the people I got to know while working in healthcare who died, I've lost count. By your age, I had known quite a few more people who had died. Then there're grandparents, uncles, aunts, in-laws, father and a niece's 1 yo. Probably only a dozen to a dozen and a half that I was actually with when they died. I've assisted with autopsies; but, not of anyone I knew.

I think "a lot", over a long period of time, has more to do with the cumulative impact than the numbers. Over a short term, the numbers would be easier to characterize as relatively many or few.
sexobon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 06:42 PM   #10
lumberjim
Token White Guy
 
Join Date: Oct 2003
Posts: 24,107
we'll all be stone dead in a moment


__________________
oh, no. wait. the opposite of that.
lumberjim is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 07:36 PM   #11
Rhianne
Nearly done.
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Teetering on the edge.
Posts: 1,075
JayMcGee - John - introduced me to The Cellar.
Rhianne is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 11:01 PM   #12
zippyt
LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz
 
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Arkansas
Posts: 7,539
dad when i was 5
Garnd dads Befor i was born
grand mothers 1 ( hint for moms DONT hand yer young son his grandmother ashes at her burial !!!!!)
grand mother 2 when i was 18ish ( she was in her 90s , no big suprise , but still sucked )
96 and 97 were Verry bad years for me and my wife
9/11/ 96 ( day After my Bday ) my mom was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer , she died on 12/26/96 ( oh and her address , and the house i grew up in was 1226 )
Carols mom had a wreck the day befor Thanks giving , died that saterday
Sudo dad took a nap spring of 97 , woke up dead ( heart failure )
Sudo mom died of lung cancer not long after
So yes i have experienced death , it FUCKING SUCKS !!!!!
But we go on , we live with it , untill we dont
Thats why i dont get verry close with folks , it hurts when they are gone .
sorta numb to it at this point
__________________
"Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. "
Brother Dave Gardner
zippyt is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-27-2018, 11:40 PM   #13
monster
Dream Hater
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Perpetual Chaos
Posts: 28,993
chronological order

People I actually interacted with -excluding elderly distant relatives I saw once every few years when they's visit my grandparents at christmas...

Great Grandmother, three grandparents (one cancer in old(er) age, two just old age), a fellow PhD student (cancer), FIL (heart/lungs/rough life, age), father of one of Thor's friends (cancer) beest's uncle (old age), beest (cancer) next door neighbor (cancer).

still in single digits. But let me tell you it's enough. Every day I am terrified one of my kids will be killed. I know, it's just a part of he grieving process, but it sucks.

I'm 48, for reference. (just) I keep thinking I'm 38 though :/
__________________
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart
monster is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-28-2018, 12:15 AM   #14
monster
Dream Hater
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Perpetual Chaos
Posts: 28,993
Forgot the young ones.... One of the kids' waterpolo peers killed in a car accident and one of the boys' teammates committed suicide a couple of years ago and the dwellars already mentioned of course
__________________
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart
monster is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 09-28-2018, 12:17 AM   #15
monster
Dream Hater
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Perpetual Chaos
Posts: 28,993
Forgot the youngsters. Kids waterpolo peer and coach in a car crash, boys'hockey teammate, suicide
__________________
The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity Amelia Earhart
monster is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply


Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump

All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:17 PM.


Powered by: vBulletin Version 3.8.1
Copyright ©2000 - 2018, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.