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Old 01-19-2018, 07:54 PM   #151
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You should learn to recognize bad drivers before they crash into you and learn sound evasive action techniques.
Ah... you mean like the guy who I figured out was a whackjob after a few simple phone conversations, and quietly stopped interacting with, except he still stalked me for six months? Just getting out of the room/restaurant/neighborhood is almost never enough.
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Old 01-19-2018, 09:43 PM   #152
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No, I didn't mean that. That was the driving analogy correlation to a countermeasure.

Let's try something else.

Those with formal leadership training know there are often two solutions to a problem, a short term (interim) solution and a long term (permanent) solution. The short term solution helps alleviate apprehension, confusion, and fear by giving people a direction, focus, and restoring a sense of control. It may not be a permanent solution; but, it may be the only solution available at the time ... perhaps during your lifetime. It isn't a placebo, it's a catalyst. It helps people achieve a long term solution sooner.

The long term solution lies in changing the way men treat women. The short term solution needs to be proactive towards that end. Simple evasion as you did doesn't accomplish that; because, it doesn't change men's behavior, it just avoids it. It's not an effective countermeasure like it was in the driving analogy.

NOTE: I'm talking about harassment here. In cases of violence, creating distance can be paramount. END NOTE.

An EXAMPLE of a short term solution that initiates changes in men could be for women to establish a protocol for what to say and do when they begin to feel harassed. With all of them saying and doing the same thing, there can be little doubt in men's minds that they're out of bounds as far as the woman is concerned whether they agree with it or not. Next comes a protocol for what steps to take afterwards.

Another EXAMPLE could be taking assertiveness training (even self help courses). Learn what behaviors work best on men to prevent untoward initiatives. It's a transferable skill and an ounce of prevention is still worth a pound of cure.

I'm sure women are capable of doing more than just retribution in hindsight. Be women of vision.
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Old 01-22-2018, 12:50 AM   #153
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no, he didn’t mean the thing that happened
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Old 01-22-2018, 08:41 PM   #154
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See, Flint gets it.

He's still working on how to begin and end sentences though.
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Old 01-26-2018, 03:14 PM   #155
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Old 01-28-2018, 04:44 PM   #156
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The National Gallery of Art will not present solo exhibitions by painter Chuck Close and photographer Thomas Roma, both of whom have been accused of sexual misconduct.

The Close exhibition was supposed to open May 13, while the Roma show was planned for September. The decision to halt the shows was made earlier this month and marks the first time the gallery has canceled exhibitions because of public allegations against the featured artists, according to Anabeth Guthrie, the museumís chief of communications.
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Old 03-13-2018, 11:12 AM   #157
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Old 03-13-2018, 05:44 PM   #158
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This weeks latest example:

A complaint filed with the Pennsylvania House of Representatives alleges Rep. Nick Miccarelli of Delaware County threatened to kill one woman and forced another to have sex after they broke up. The lawyer for two women confirmed what was first reported by The Philadelphia Inquirer and The Caucus newspaper
Rep. Nick Miccarelli's accuser talks to investigators.

Nick Miccarelli is so paranoid as to carry a gun into the state house. He has been described with an obsession for violence and firearms. He is now the only legislator required to submit to metal detectors and had been banned from the State House underground parking lot. One forceably attacked woman was Luzerne County Representative Tarah Toohil.

When does Bill Cosby go to trial?
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Old 03-13-2018, 09:29 PM   #159
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Ha, when the leadership of UAW local 1069 endorsed Miccarelli over a local member (Democrat) running against him. I told them he was an asshole. I was right.
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Old 03-18-2018, 09:29 AM   #160
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