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Old 01-02-2017, 09:17 AM   #16
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Thanks all. I'm not usually good with processing my emotions, or maybe I lie to myself, but I'm not really missing HER or wondering what she is doing. I realize I'm missing being in a relationship with someone who cares about me and wants to be with me more so than I am missing her specifically.
She changed since her beloved cat died almost a year ago. She always referred to him as the "love of her life". Ironic eh? She became more reclusive and introverted - distant. She's a beautiful person, but she just isn't in love with me anymore. I'm feeling much better than I think I would have anticipated.
Yesterday I had a total meltdown when I realized I would be seeing my other cat (her cat) anymore. Whenever I was there, he slept next to my head and nudged me frequently for love.
I'll post some happier stuff elsewhere, I promise.
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Old 01-02-2017, 12:54 PM   #17
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Just steal the cat.
She owes you.
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Old 01-02-2017, 01:00 PM   #18
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Sorry classic, Women are like that.


Nope. Some women are like that. Some men are like that. X


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Old 01-02-2017, 01:03 PM   #19
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I'm not usually good with processing my emotions, or maybe I lie to myself
Oh fuck, I know what you mean...I think it might be the cause of a lot of my anxiety.

Get a kitten. It will take your mind off a lot of things...
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Old 01-02-2017, 01:27 PM   #20
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Kitten, hell.

Get some strange.

That'll take your mind off her. For a minute.
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Old 01-02-2017, 04:21 PM   #21
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Just steal the cat.
She owes you.
I wish I could. :'( Seriously, Missing him has been the hardest part of this. How fucked up is that?!?!?!?!??!?!
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Get a kitten. It will take your mind off a lot of things...
Looking to rescue a 5yr old. There are way too many kittens out there and the older ones need homes way more.
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Old 01-02-2017, 04:37 PM   #22
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"I miss the cat more than I miss her."

That's a sign.

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Old 01-02-2017, 04:37 PM   #23
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Great idea. So many adult cats need homes. Plus, they've been spayed/neutered, vaccinated, etc., by the shelter if not by their former owners. Not declawed, hopefully.
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Old 01-02-2017, 04:43 PM   #24
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Get the cat!!!

Sidenote: i watched The Three Lives of Thomasina yesterday. Sweet old movie. Made me miss my orange tabby Madison.
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Old 01-03-2017, 01:20 PM   #25
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Sorry about the cat thing. I'm sorry that you got more emotional validation from the cat than from the person, and that you are now missing the cat. And I'm sorry that the cat thing is even a thing. You know what I mean, I hope.
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Old 01-03-2017, 01:40 PM   #26
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I wonder if he misses the pussy as much as he misses the pussy...
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Old 01-03-2017, 03:17 PM   #27
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Ah damn, Classic, that is a sucky way to end 2016. Well done for recognising the situation you were in and taking control. People can waste a lot of years just getting by with something that isn't making them happy.

You deserve someone who is as into you as you are into them.
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Old 01-03-2017, 08:23 PM   #28
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Well, I'm easy, but, I ain't cheap.
Well, I'm easy *and* cheap, but I'm taken.
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Old 01-03-2017, 11:08 PM   #29
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Funny how you guys always know how to make me smile.Thanks for that.
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Old 01-04-2017, 01:42 AM   #30
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I wonder if he misses the pussy as much as he misses the pussy...
I am late reading this thread, but glad to see someone made my joke for me. Good job, digr.

Apathy is a bitch. Glad you had the self respect to confront it. She is out there. You will find her.

Of this I am sure. You don't even have to search. Just be you, and pay attention.

Sides, you've got bigger fish to fry right now.
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