How to be happy - Page 3

Trilby · 08-07-2009, 09:54 AM

Dana, I KNOW she wasn't Rxing for depression. She comes off a bit pat, that's all. some people have real problems, right? She is, in my way of thinking, living an envious life already.

eh. If you don't get it, you don't. I was commenting on the general whininess of some who really, if asked if they'd trade with others, wouldn't. Never mind. This is ridiculous to pursue - as most things really are.

Shawnee123 · 08-07-2009, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

If you read the piece again I think you'll find she says Do let the sun go down on anger.

If you'll read my post again you'll see I find her assertion that there are studies telling her it's OK to go to bed mad because her husband went out with the boys to get away from her whiny naggy ass is the real poppycock.

Sundae · 08-07-2009, 10:01 AM

Have to say I agree with the S and the B here.
She lives a life I envy, and while she has every right to whine about it, it sticks in my craw to have her preach about how she copes with her perfect life. Gag.

You'll have to excuse Bri, Shawnee and me though. We are bitter ex-Strawberry Queens going rancid in our inelegant old age. Said with the sting of old fruit, but not actually directed at you!

DanaC · 08-07-2009, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Brianna

Dana, I KNOW she wasn't Rxing for depression. She comes off a bit pat, that's all. some people have real problems, right? She is, in my way of thinking, living an envious life already.

eh. If you don't get it, you don't. I was commenting on the general whininess of some who really, if asked if they'd trade with others, wouldn't. Never mind. This is ridiculous to pursue - as most things really are.

Oh I fully understand your point Bri. But my point is: just because someone's life seems 'envious' doesn't mean that person is happy. Anyone's unhappiness is real and central for them, regardless of how much their lives may look like a fairytale dream come true. Even if they are a fairytale dream come true. The sad fact some people find themselves confronting is that the achievement of what you wanted doesn't always bring the happiness you might expect.

I once gave Tiki some advice that she thought was just cookie cutter pat nonsense. Set in that list it would read exactly as that. But I was suggesting something that I had come to myself after years of depression and had found helpful to me.

Shawnee123 · 08-07-2009, 10:03 AM

Aging ex-Strawberry Queens who got it going on in our own rights.

DanaC · 08-07-2009, 10:06 AM

She doresn't actually say she was unhappy anyway. She was just feeling like she was in danger of wasting her life. As she says: she had seemingly everything to make her happy and yet found herself losing her temper and not acting like a happy person. There must be many people who go through that experience. Some of them will actually be suffering mild depression without realising it.

Sundae · 08-07-2009, 10:17 AM

Oh shush.
You're being all reasonable and making sense and I can't defend my knee-jerk dislike.
Bitch needs a smack, y'all!

Too much Maury, maybe?

Trilby · 08-07-2009, 10:24 AM

I'm sitting here wondering, "why did I immediately dislike her?"

It's her litany of Wonderfuls. I don't have health, a soul-mate, a job I adore, nor do I live in a city I adore (or one that's even remotely interesting), etc., etc., but I have managed, in my own tiny, pedestrian way, to relish the good and hope for the light when it all fades to black. If THIS woman is unhappy, what hope for I?

The Born Agains would say she needs Jesus.
The Catholics would say Confession.
The pervs, a good lay.
The docs, a bit of serotonin.
The junkies would Rx a fix and a drunk would offer a snort.

We all take our medicine where we find it. I'm glad she's worked thru her ennui (for that it what it seems to this old woman) and can find joy again in, what I can only assume, by her OWN list, is her envious life. Maybe the Hamptons would cheer this dark night of her soul?

(yes, catty. Non, je ne regrette rien la chat)

Shawnee123 · 08-07-2009, 10:26 AM

For me, it was the "poor me for not being downtrodden, beaten, poor, unsafe. Those people get ALL the attention...me and my ilk deserve a voice too! I guess I'll have to find my own unhappiness...now where did I leave it?"

Sundae · 08-07-2009, 10:27 AM

I don't think you have to be a perv to recommend a good lay as a cure.
Just a Dwellar.

FTR Bri - la chatte, le chat. Sorry.

Trilby · 08-07-2009, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

I don't think you have to be a perv to recommend a good lay as a cure.
Just a Dwellar.

FTR Bri - la chatte, le chat. Sorry.

I bow to your command of the French language, SG. My mother would be horrified.

Sex is only dirty if you're doing it right.

Sigh. Anyway, I'm so bored. I should be making sandwiches for the homeless or scrubbing at something or writing my Get-Back-At-The-World novel but I can't even be bothered to argue. Should I go to the movies?

SteveDallas · 08-07-2009, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Sundae Girl

You'll have to excuse Bri, Shawnee and me though. We are bitter ex-Strawberry Queens going rancid in our inelegant old age.

I'm not an ex-Strawberry Queen (or a current one, or any other type of former or current queen), but y'all are welcome to come take an instant dislike to stuff like this at my place any time.

Shawnee123 · 08-07-2009, 10:42 AM

There are Strawberry KINGS also.

Trilby · 08-07-2009, 10:46 AM

He can be the Rain King.

Shawnee123 · 08-07-2009, 10:47 AM

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Although it's true that genetics play a big role, about 40 percent of your happiness level is within your control

Another one. What kind of statistic is that? Fine, write a feel-good article, but don't pretend that science is on your side.

08-07-2009, 09:54 AM	#31
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Dana, I KNOW she wasn't Rxing for depression. She comes off a bit pat, that's all. some people have real problems, right? She is, in my way of thinking, living an envious life already. eh. If you don't get it, you don't. I was commenting on the general whininess of some who really, if asked if they'd trade with others, wouldn't. Never mind. This is ridiculous to pursue - as most things really are. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

08-07-2009, 10:01 AM	#33
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Have to say I agree with the S and the B here. She lives a life I envy, and while she has every right to whine about it, it sticks in my craw to have her preach about how she copes with her perfect life. Gag. You'll have to excuse Bri, Shawnee and me though. We are bitter ex-Strawberry Queens going rancid in our inelegant old age. Said with the sting of old fruit, but not actually directed at you! __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

08-07-2009, 10:03 AM	#35
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Aging ex-Strawberry Queens who got it going on in our own rights. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-07-2009, 10:17 AM	#37
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	Oh shush. You're being all reasonable and making sense and I can't defend my knee-jerk dislike. Bitch needs a smack, y'all! Too much Maury, maybe? __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

08-07-2009, 10:24 AM	#38
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	I'm sitting here wondering, "why did I immediately dislike her?" It's her litany of Wonderfuls. I don't have health, a soul-mate, a job I adore, nor do I live in a city I adore (or one that's even remotely interesting), etc., etc., but I have managed, in my own tiny, pedestrian way, to relish the good and hope for the light when it all fades to black. If THIS woman is unhappy, what hope for I? The Born Agains would say she needs Jesus. The Catholics would say Confession. The pervs, a good lay. The docs, a bit of serotonin. The junkies would Rx a fix and a drunk would offer a snort. We all take our medicine where we find it. I'm glad she's worked thru her ennui (for that it what it seems to this old woman) and can find joy again in, what I can only assume, by her OWN list, is her envious life. Maybe the Hamptons would cheer this dark night of her soul? (yes, catty. Non, je ne regrette rien la chat) __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

08-07-2009, 10:26 AM	#39
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	For me, it was the "poor me for not being downtrodden, beaten, poor, unsafe. Those people get ALL the attention...me and my ilk deserve a voice too! I guess I'll have to find my own unhappiness...now where did I leave it?" __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-07-2009, 10:27 AM	#40
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I don't think you have to be a perv to recommend a good lay as a cure. Just a Dwellar. FTR Bri - la chatte, le chat. Sorry. __________________ Life's hard you know, so strike a pose on a Cadillac

08-07-2009, 10:42 AM	#43
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	There are Strawberry KINGS also. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

08-07-2009, 10:46 AM	#44
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	He can be the Rain King. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

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