Well that's that - Page 4

Spexxvet · 07-09-2012, 12:40 PM

UT, could it get better living apart, or is this final, no more "us"?

Stormieweather · 07-09-2012, 12:48 PM

So sorry to hear this, UT. I know it hurts.

I hope time is your friend and that you end up in even better shape than when the relationship began. I think that power lies with you...big hugs!!

Undertoad · 07-09-2012, 12:59 PM

That is great Glinda, I appreciate it!

Spexx I dunno. I doubt it. She has been pretty miserable and difficult for the second half of our relationship.

Part of my love for her was that she was someone who would not ask me to change. It turned out that was just a ground rule she accepted.

And so she would be mad at me all the time and miserable and not really say why, just hint around it. This was a much worse approach for both of us.

Goddammit I let her miserable kids live here and help wreck the place without giving anything back. Clarity is setting in.

wolf · 07-09-2012, 01:03 PM

Sorry, man.

Trilby · 07-09-2012, 02:29 PM

Clarity IS setting in and more will come. More will be revealed. And I love the 'be the cake' thing, too.

I KNEW I was going to die of heartbreak when T. left me nearly twenty years ago. We have a son together and thus I knew what he was up to in his life. I would NOT have wanted to become what T. became; what he is now. I am very thankful that I am no longer with him but for the first, oh, eight years I thought I was going to die.

*hugs* More clarity. More cake.

jimhelm · 07-09-2012, 03:49 PM

MORE CAKE! YAY!

SamIam · 07-09-2012, 07:34 PM

Break ups suck. Sorry you have to go thru this, UT. Ftankly, it sounds like she didn't have all HER shit together, so why should she be down on you?

fargon · 07-10-2012, 09:02 AM

I'm very sorry UT.

Undertoad · 07-10-2012, 12:33 PM

"But here's the good part: the next woman I hook up with is going to downright adore me, worship me, respect me, praise me and love me, because you people tell me I deserve it, and I believe you, and I'm never ever ever going to make this mistake again. Look forward to that story when I write in in 2009." -- Undertoad, 10/11/2003, previous divorce thread

Well she did, for a while.

xoxoxoBruce · 07-10-2012, 03:55 PM

You can still be proud of the fact you did great things for both your ex-roommates. The first, getting her out of her shell to bloom. For J, helping her keep it together through a very trying time with her kids, plus helping the kids get their shit in one sock. You gave as good, or better, than you got.

DanaC · 07-10-2012, 04:23 PM

Also, 8 years is hardly a failed relationship. Just one that has run its course. Sometimes that's how long they last.

richlevy · 07-10-2012, 07:32 PM

Very sorry to hear that. Not knowing anything about the situation I'll leave off of any platitudes.

jimhelm · 07-10-2012, 07:37 PM

platitudes: Platypuses with attitudes

Trilby · 07-10-2012, 08:58 PM

Ah, platypii. One of God's little jokes.

The look like they were put together by first year engineering students don't they, poor buggars.

DucksNuts · 07-10-2012, 11:34 PM

Im sorry, UT!

He is a douche!!

I was always willing to hit on you, but you were attached n all....you know....Im an easy bit of fluff........

Truely though, I am sorry you are going through this. We love you shit n all.

07-09-2012, 12:40 PM	#46
Spexxvet Makes some feel uncomfortable Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 10,346	UT, could it get better living apart, or is this final, no more "us"? __________________ "I'm certainly free, nay compelled, to spread the gospel of Spex. " - xoxoxoBruce

07-09-2012, 12:48 PM	#47
Stormieweather Wearing her bitch boots Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Floriduh Posts: 1,181	So sorry to hear this, UT. I know it hurts. I hope time is your friend and that you end up in even better shape than when the relationship began. I think that power lies with you...big hugs!! __________________ "First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." - Mahatma Gandhi

07-09-2012, 01:03 PM	#49
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	Sorry, man. __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

07-09-2012, 02:29 PM	#50
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Clarity IS setting in and more will come. More will be revealed. And I love the 'be the cake' thing, too. I KNEW I was going to die of heartbreak when T. left me nearly twenty years ago. We have a son together and thus I knew what he was up to in his life. I would NOT have wanted to become what T. became; what he is now. I am very thankful that I am no longer with him but for the first, oh, eight years I thought I was going to die. hugs More clarity. More cake. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

07-09-2012, 03:49 PM	#51
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	MORE CAKE! YAY! __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

07-09-2012, 12:59 PM	#48
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	That is great Glinda, I appreciate it! Spexx I dunno. I doubt it. She has been pretty miserable and difficult for the second half of our relationship. Part of my love for her was that she was someone who would not ask me to change. It turned out that was just a ground rule she accepted. And so she would be mad at me all the time and miserable and not really say why, just hint around it. This was a much worse approach for both of us. Goddammit I let her miserable kids live here and help wreck the place without giving anything back. Clarity is setting in.

07-09-2012, 07:34 PM	#52
SamIam Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Not here Posts: 2,655	Break ups suck. Sorry you have to go thru this, UT. Ftankly, it sounds like she didn't have all HER shit together, so why should she be down on you?

07-10-2012, 09:02 AM	#53
fargon Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: La Crosse, WI Posts: 8,924	I'm very sorry UT. __________________ Annoy the ones that ignore you!!! I live a blessed life I Love my Country, I Fear the Government!!! Heavily medicated for the good of mankind.

07-10-2012, 12:33 PM	#54
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	"But here's the good part: the next woman I hook up with is going to downright adore me, worship me, respect me, praise me and love me, because you people tell me I deserve it, and I believe you, and I'm never ever ever going to make this mistake again. Look forward to that story when I write in in 2009." -- Undertoad, 10/11/2003, previous divorce thread Well she did, for a while.

07-10-2012, 03:55 PM	#55
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	You can still be proud of the fact you did great things for both your ex-roommates. The first, getting her out of her shell to bloom. For J, helping her keep it together through a very trying time with her kids, plus helping the kids get their shit in one sock. You gave as good, or better, than you got. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

07-10-2012, 07:32 PM	#57
richlevy King Of Wishful Thinking Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Philadelphia Suburbs Posts: 6,669	Very sorry to hear that. Not knowing anything about the situation I'll leave off of any platitudes. __________________ Exercise your rights and remember your obligations - VOTE! I have always believed that hope is that stubborn thing inside us that insists, despite all the evidence to the contrary, that something better awaits us so long as we have the courage to keep reaching, to keep working, to keep fighting. -- Barack Hussein Obama

07-10-2012, 07:37 PM	#58
jimhelm a beautiful fool Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: 39.939705 Posts: 4,504	platitudes: Platypuses with attitudes __________________ There's a Shadow just behind me. Shrouding every step I take. Making every promise empty, pointing every finger at me. _tool

07-10-2012, 08:58 PM	#59
Trilby Slattern of the Swail Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 15,654	Ah, platypii. One of God's little jokes. The look like they were put together by first year engineering students don't they, poor buggars. __________________ In Barrie's play and novel, the roles of fairies are brief: they are allies to the Lost Boys, the source of fairy dust and ...They are portrayed as dangerous, whimsical and extremely clever but quite hedonistic. "Shall I give you a kiss?" Peter asked and, jerking an acorn button off his coat, solemnly presented it to her. —James Barrie Wimminfolk they be tricksy. - ZenGum

07-10-2012, 11:34 PM	#60
DucksNuts Bitchy Little Brat Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 5,067	Im sorry, UT! He is a douche!! I was always willing to hit on you, but you were attached n all....you know....Im an easy bit of fluff........ Truely though, I am sorry you are going through this. We love you shit n all.

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