Narcissistic Personality Disorder (a novella, sorry) - Page 6

infinite monkey · 10-11-2015, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by DanaC

Well said, classic.

Agreed!

it · 10-11-2015, 04:22 PM

Agreed - he is amazing. And anyone who doesn't text him back can't handle how amazing he is.

Undertoad · 02-15-2017, 10:13 AM

I did not keep in contact with anyone at my old workplace, but I've heard through the grapevine that the narcissist has told someone he has decided not to renew his contract with the company.

I am 100% certain that this is narcissist code for: the company did not renew HIS contract. He has a chronic inability to admit any level of failure or weakness...

And his office, where I worked, will surely now close. Bullet dodged, for me I guess, but a handful of other people are going to lose jobs. Here is where the narcissist wreaks havoc, even if s/he is not directly impacting you. S/he's impacting other people. Pissing people off, playing games, doing things that are ultimately unproductive.

~

My current boss is a 6 out of 10 on the scale - maybe a 7, and it's annoying but you can work around it. It's funny, I was unable to see that 6-7 because my previous employer relationship was with a 10. I am disgusted with tech entrepreneurs and their narcissism and my next job I will most carefully vet for this very serious problem.

I hope.

xoxoxoBruce · 02-15-2017, 12:44 PM

Is there a standard scale with tells, or are you rating 1 to 10 of your perception of narcissism? I wonder how your fellow office dwellers would rate this guy from their perception? Or maybe don't recognize it for what it is, and just say he's an asshole.

Undertoad · 02-15-2017, 06:13 PM

It's just my own perception, s'true but I'm trying to go by the list on the first post of the thread.

But a cow-orker said narcissist about the guy, and I objected. This gent doesn't have a genuine personality disorder. He's just a little less emotionally connected. This is typical of high level tech people and certainly not a limit to success in the field (see Gates, Bill).

I would like my next boss to be something different, though. I'm exhausted.

xoxoxoBruce · 02-15-2017, 06:36 PM

Like Steve Jobs.

You'll have to be boss next time. Make 'em work in an open office while you patrol from the catwalk, and pick out slackers for whipping.

Or hire all ladies.

Freaky · 10-19-2017, 09:42 AM

Working with narcissists is really bad. What's really annoying is that they can be really good actors and love to get attention, which usually makes them climb the coorporate ladder quickly. The best is really to try to engage as little as possible and to never start a war with them, because they will use every (unethical) trick of the book to destroy you completely.

02-15-2017, 12:44 PM	#79
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Is there a standard scale with tells, or are you rating 1 to 10 of your perception of narcissism? I wonder how your fellow office dwellers would rate this guy from their perception? Or maybe don't recognize it for what it is, and just say he's an asshole. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

02-15-2017, 06:36 PM	#81
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	Like Steve Jobs. You'll have to be boss next time. Make 'em work in an open office while you patrol from the catwalk, and pick out slackers for whipping. Or hire all ladies. __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

10-11-2015, 04:22 PM	#77
it Banned Join Date: Dec 2011 Posts: 772	Agreed - he is amazing. And anyone who doesn't text him back can't handle how amazing he is.

02-15-2017, 10:13 AM	#78
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	I did not keep in contact with anyone at my old workplace, but I've heard through the grapevine that the narcissist has told someone he has decided not to renew his contract with the company. I am 100% certain that this is narcissist code for: the company did not renew HIS contract. He has a chronic inability to admit any level of failure or weakness... And his office, where I worked, will surely now close. Bullet dodged, for me I guess, but a handful of other people are going to lose jobs. Here is where the narcissist wreaks havoc, even if s/he is not directly impacting you. S/he's impacting other people. Pissing people off, playing games, doing things that are ultimately unproductive. ~ My current boss is a 6 out of 10 on the scale - maybe a 7, and it's annoying but you can work around it. It's funny, I was unable to see that 6-7 because my previous employer relationship was with a 10. I am disgusted with tech entrepreneurs and their narcissism and my next job I will most carefully vet for this very serious problem. I hope.

02-15-2017, 06:13 PM	#80
Undertoad Radical Centrist Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Cottage of Prussia Posts: 31,423	It's just my own perception, s'true but I'm trying to go by the list on the first post of the thread. But a cow-orker said narcissist about the guy, and I objected. This gent doesn't have a genuine personality disorder. He's just a little less emotionally connected. This is typical of high level tech people and certainly not a limit to success in the field (see Gates, Bill). I would like my next boss to be something different, though. I'm exhausted.

10-19-2017, 09:42 AM	#82
Freaky Fellow-Commoner Join Date: Oct 2017 Posts: 10	Working with narcissists is really bad. What's really annoying is that they can be really good actors and love to get attention, which usually makes them climb the coorporate ladder quickly. The best is really to try to engage as little as possible and to never start a war with them, because they will use every (unethical) trick of the book to destroy you completely.

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