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Old 01-08-2012, 02:32 AM   #46
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that actually inspired me big V.

haven't gone through the legal process... i thought she was going to file for an annulment, and she pretty much has be the one since we are only registered in canada (her place) and i'm back in israel (my place)...
and part of me still hoping that she might some day decide to finish the immigration process (there's a kid involved) so i am patient with it, not exactly rushing to get married any time soon and i'm young enough to be fine with starting my economic life from scretch. not sure if there's any point in going over the divorce paperwork now. `

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Old 01-08-2012, 04:33 PM   #47
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While some of you revel in being single, I'm still hurting after 3 years.
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Old 01-08-2012, 06:15 PM   #48
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...and that depressed me.

come on man, tell the divorce newbie something good...

everything you have in the fridge is something you like, right? every item in your house... and there's nobody who nags you until you hate the sound of your name, that has to be nice... and a lot of booty, right?
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Old 01-08-2012, 06:38 PM   #49
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Best 5 years of my life. Lotta shit went down during that time.
Some of which was tragic and altered the lives of many people forever.
Still I wouldn't change a thing. I am with a far better person and she has
stuck by me through it all. YMMV.
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Old 01-08-2012, 06:42 PM   #50
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come on man, tell the divorce newbie something good...
You won't have to buy nearly as much toilet paper.
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Old 01-08-2012, 06:52 PM   #51
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You have a toilet paper fixation Bruce.
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Old 01-08-2012, 07:13 PM   #52
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stupid related enecdote, but i remember one night shift in the army we started talking about where we see ourselve's in a decade. the girls and a few of the guys where saying married, maybe with kids... i never really saw myself getting married, so at the expense of our superior officer (2 divorces) i joked that i see myself following in his footsteps and being divorced.



god thinks he's so funny...
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Old 01-09-2012, 12:11 AM   #53
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You have a toilet paper fixation Bruce.
But....
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Old 01-09-2012, 01:16 AM   #54
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No butts...and definitely no ifs!
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Old 01-09-2012, 02:02 AM   #55
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Can she bake a cherry pie
Billy boy billy boy
Can she bake a cherry pie
Charming billy?
She can bake a cherry pie
Quick as a cat can wink an eye
She's a young one and cannot leave her mother
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Old 01-10-2012, 11:07 PM   #56
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While some of you revel in being single, I'm still hurting after 3 years.
I hurt for a long time too - in varying levels.

I wouldn't say either that I reveled in being single, quite the opposite actually. I went through different stages, some fun times dating, some horrid times. Lots of times I just said forget about it for a while.

It takes as long as it takes, but if you do the work, it does get better. Really.
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Old 12-08-2015, 01:52 AM   #57
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Six years today. Each better than the last one. Tink's death makes this year permanently different, but for reasons that aren't directly related to our divorce.

It has been another good year notwithstanding. Thanks to you all, thanks to my children, and thanks most of all to Twil. See you all again same time next year.
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Old 12-08-2016, 01:03 AM   #58
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Seven years. Like an arrow, like an arrow.

The kids are young adults now, they got adult problems. Marriage (or divorce) isn't one of the 99, thank goodness. I've re-read this thread and this sentence struck me:

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My marriage lasted as long as it did, and then ended.
I like that. It's true, it's sensible, it's just right, but I only wish I'd been able to comprehend it before, you know....2011.

I'm a much, much better partner now than I ever have been. And a big part of the reason for that is what I've learned (that I never want to repeat) from my mistakes in my relationships in the past.

"D-Day". I crack me up. See you all next year.
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Old 12-07-2017, 02:25 PM   #60
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Happy D-Day to me!

Once again, this thread brings back memories, good memories. I can remember the bad stuff too, but it just does not feel as apocalyptic now. I mean, of course it did. But maaaan... Back then, I thought I gonna die, and I was afraid I wouldn't. Horrible.

But not now. Now, Life Is Good.

Thank you, Twil!
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