Badger Epiphany

footfootfoot · 02-16-2012, 03:01 PM

Had a sort of stand up for myself breakthrough last night. Homegrrl was opining about me and my failure to make her life teh fluffeh and I suddenly realized I didn't have to go into ignore mode to preserve my mind so I just said, "You know what? I don't really care what you think of me and I'm not interested in listening to your opinion of me, my life, what my problem is or what you think I need to do."

"If you'd like to talk about yourself, I'm happy to listen and would be very interested."

So then she started in with "I feel disrespected, taken for granted, taken advantage of..."

and I interrupted her and said, "You're actually still talking about me. You're saying 'I feel disrespected by you, I feel taken for granted by you... If you want to talk about you and your problems, faults and weaknesses I'm happy to listen, but I don't really care, at all, what you think about me."

It may seem really obvious to some of you, but this is new territory for me to just tell someone that I don't really care to hear what they have to say, w/o getting angry or emotional or feeling like I need to fight back or give as I get.

It seemed to work.

So, w00t 4 m3 and my l337 relationship skilz

infinite monkey · 02-16-2012, 03:02 PM

:bravo:

Sundae · 02-16-2012, 03:05 PM

l337?

footfootfoot · 02-16-2012, 03:22 PM

Sorry, I meant to type L337

Sundae · 02-16-2012, 03:23 PM

L337?

footfootfoot · 02-16-2012, 03:25 PM

Your mate Dani can 'splain it or you can http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leet

Gravdigr · 02-16-2012, 03:31 PM

If you don't stand up for yourself, nobody else will either.

Good for you foot.

Sundae · 02-16-2012, 03:33 PM

I knew me some leetspeak. Just didn't recognise that one (like, the basic one!)
In my defence I's always seen it as l33t.
I've even used it in passwords that require numbers.

Still, colour me pignorant and paint me purple.

Clodfobble · 02-16-2012, 05:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by footfootfoot

It seemed to work.

Do you mean she actually started talking about her own problems, or she just STFU? Just wondering what level of success we're talking about here.

classicman · 02-16-2012, 05:19 PM

I'm guessin the latter. That's what I called success with my ex.
(half kidding at most)

Aliantha · 02-16-2012, 05:20 PM

Just a quick catch up for me because I'm a doodle head.

foot, are you and homegirl still together? I thought you were not any more?

wolf · 02-16-2012, 06:07 PM

I go to school for years to learn this shit, and people just up and do it?

Where's that Walmart application?

HungLikeJesus · 02-16-2012, 06:58 PM

This sounds like the beginning of the end, one way or the other.

Or maybe the middle of the middle, come to think of it.

footfootfoot · 02-16-2012, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Clodfobble

Do you mean she actually started talking about her own problems, or she just STFU? Just wondering what level of success we're talking about here.

mostly STFU and a tiny bit of hers but mostly my mind was relatively unmolested.

Ali, we're still married and in the house. There have been ups and downs of togetherness but mostly I have given up and my attitude is to keep working on my thing and let her do hers and see what happens. But not really "trying" anymore. It's time for her to take some steps towards the middle of the middle.

footfootfoot · 02-16-2012, 07:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wolf

I go to school for years to learn this shit, and people just up and do it?

Where's that Walmart application?

Well, there's the sudden school of enlightenment and the gradual school. hard to tell them apart though once you get to that point...

02-16-2012, 03:01 PM	#1
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Badger Epiphany Had a sort of stand up for myself breakthrough last night. Homegrrl was opining about me and my failure to make her life teh fluffeh and I suddenly realized I didn't have to go into ignore mode to preserve my mind so I just said, "You know what? I don't really care what you think of me and I'm not interested in listening to your opinion of me, my life, what my problem is or what you think I need to do." "If you'd like to talk about yourself, I'm happy to listen and would be very interested." So then she started in with "I feel disrespected, taken for granted, taken advantage of..." and I interrupted her and said, "You're actually still talking about me. You're saying 'I feel disrespected by you, I feel taken for granted by you... If you want to talk about you and your problems, faults and weaknesses I'm happy to listen, but I don't really care, at all, what you think about me." It may seem really obvious to some of you, but this is new territory for me to just tell someone that I don't really care to hear what they have to say, w/o getting angry or emotional or feeling like I need to fight back or give as I get. It seemed to work. So, w00t 4 m3 and my l337 relationship skilz __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-16-2012, 03:22 PM	#4
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Sorry, I meant to type L337 __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-16-2012, 03:25 PM	#6
footfootfoot To shreds, you say? Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: in the house and on the street-how many, many feet we meet! Posts: 18,449	Your mate Dani can 'splain it or you can http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leet __________________ The internet is a hateful stew of vomit you can never take completely seriously. - Her Fobs

02-16-2012, 03:31 PM	#7
Gravdigr The Un-Tuckian Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: South Central...KY that is Posts: 39,517	If you don't stand up for yourself, nobody else will either. Good for you foot. __________________ These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA, EPA, FBI, DEA, CDC, or FDIC. These statements are not intended to diagnose, cause, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. If you feel you have been harmed/offended by, or, disagree with any of the above statements or images, please feel free to fuck right off.

02-16-2012, 05:19 PM	#10
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	I'm guessin the latter. That's what I called success with my ex. (half kidding at most) __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

02-16-2012, 03:02 PM	#2
infinite monkey Person who doesn't update the user title Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 13,002	:bravo:

02-16-2012, 03:05 PM	#3
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	l337?

02-16-2012, 03:23 PM	#5
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	L337?

02-16-2012, 03:33 PM	#8
Sundae polaroid of perfection Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: West Yorkshire Posts: 24,185	I knew me some leetspeak. Just didn't recognise that one (like, the basic one!) In my defence I's always seen it as l33t. I've even used it in passwords that require numbers. Still, colour me pignorant and paint me purple.

02-16-2012, 05:20 PM	#11
Aliantha trying hard to be a better person Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Brisbane, Australia Posts: 16,493	Just a quick catch up for me because I'm a doodle head. foot, are you and homegirl still together? I thought you were not any more? __________________ Kind words are the music of the world. F. W. Faber

02-16-2012, 06:07 PM	#12
wolf lobber of scimitars Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Phila Burbs Posts: 20,774	I go to school for years to learn this shit, and people just up and do it? Where's that Walmart application? __________________ wolf eht htiw og "Conspiracies are the norm, not the exception." --G. Edward Griffin The Creature from Jekyll Island High Priestess of the Church of the Whale Penis

02-16-2012, 06:58 PM	#13
HungLikeJesus Only looks like a disaster tourist Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: above 7,000 feet Posts: 7,208	This sounds like the beginning of the end, one way or the other. Or maybe the middle of the middle, come to think of it. __________________ Keep Your Bodies Off My Lawn SteveDallas's Random Thread Picker.

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