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lumberjim · 11-13-2008, 11:50 AM

wow, sorry cissy. that's pretty harsh. I wish i had some wisdom i could share about this kind of thing, but i don't. I can, however, give you a big virtual hug.

:::::::::::::::HUG:::::::::::::::::

aw, you got snot on my shirt. that's ok...I got it....I have one of those tide sticks in the car.

DanaC · 11-13-2008, 11:50 AM

Practically everybody I know has gone back to the nest for a period at some point between the ages 25 and 50.

glatt · 11-13-2008, 12:00 PM

All the cool kids are doing it.

Seriously though, I'm sorry you are facing this now. It sucks. If it were me, I'd probably head home for a while.

jinx · 11-13-2008, 12:02 PM

Aw, I'm sorry ciccy, that's just plain shitty. Kick him in the cunt for me on your way out eh?
Go home, it's too cold there anyway.

Shawnee123 · 11-13-2008, 12:26 PM

Oh ffs. Cic, I'm so sorry. You girl, you are awesome and you will come out even better on the other side, but I'm so sorry you're hurting right now.

Double kick him in the cunt, one for jinx and one for me. Oh hell, I'm sure we're not the only ones, go ahead and kick him in the cunt about 5 thousand times.

Though I never actually moved back in with the 'rents, they were there for me when I needed them and that, my dear, is the warmest feeling in the world. I knew I could go there if I needed to.

Love you girl. Keep talking to us, if it helps.

Treasenuak · 11-13-2008, 04:48 PM

Oh, Cic... -big hugs- I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. I'm thinking of you and praying for you... I wish there was something I could do or say to help, but I don't think there is. Just know that I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way, and if you want me to help you look for housing on Craigslist, just let me know; I'm always online when I'm not at work anyways, and it wouldn't be any trouble at all. Just let me know what area of New Mexico to search, honey. Best of luck.

DanaC · 11-14-2008, 08:59 PM

Mum's in hospital overnight on anti-biotics and all-night observation. She has advanced cellulitis, caught slightly before it turned into septicemia (sp?).

She was complaining last night about an insect bite on her finger. When I spoke to her this morning she said it had swollen up quite badly. I'd suggested seeing her doctor, but she wanted to see how it was over the weekend and go next week if it didnt clear. When she dropped Pilau back at my house this evening, she showed me and her forefinger, half her hand and thumb were swollen up like a balloon. Bright red and angry looking.

I said to her she should go down to the infirmary, but she really didnt want to. In the end I shouted at her (felt guilt about that, but when I spoked to her later she hadnt remembered me doing so. I said to her, it could be serious. Then she shows me a red line starting to track up her arm under the skin. I said she had to at least go down the road and get our Jen's advice (she's a nurse) because if its tracking up the arm that sounds like it could be really bad and end up with blood poisoning or something.

Anyway she left her dog with me and off she went, where Jen, my brother and the two girls insisted in no uncertain terms that she was going to the infirmary. Martin and Jen were on the way out, so the girls went in the car with Ma down to A&E. (this was about 9:30pm)

My eldest niece phoned me around 11.30 to say she was being kept in overnight, and my brother was on his way back home to gather up stuff to take to her in hospital and pick the girls up. ..A further phone call revealed that she may be in for a couple of days.

Apparently had she left it for the weekend she would have ended up with septicemia and things could have got very nasty, very fast. Whilst she was waiting to be seen she phoned me and said that the single red line which had reached a few centimetres past her wrist had extended halfway up her arm and two new tracks had started to run up as well...in half an hour.

I felt so sorry for her. She just wanted to go home and settle for the night and instead she had to go do all that. Apparently she was a little spaced out. 'Meels said she seemed like she didnt know what to do with herself and a little in shock. They'd all expected to come home armed with a bottle of anti-biotics.

It's really bothering me that she must have been scared when the reality of the situation kicked in and she realised that she had something serious (though very treatable).

lookout123 · 11-14-2008, 11:38 PM

So sorry to hear that Cic. Don't bother kicking him in the cunt, just stick some nice cut up fish in the furnace vents, pee on the mattress, flush about 20 tampons down the toilets, then pack your stuff and hit the road. Now is a time to be with people you can trust to love you. If there is nothing major holding you to the city there is no reason to stay. Regardless of your choice remember the cellar is not just for abuse, but also support. A few of us have been through the divorce blender and come out the other side - don't be afraid to vent or ask advice.

lookout123 · 11-14-2008, 11:39 PM

Dana - tell your mom I'm sorry about her fingur.

Cloud · 11-14-2008, 11:56 PM

Cicero: OMG. I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I am. I can't tell you what to do; and I know how hard it must be to think and make decisions right now.

Be glad you have a family that's willing to help you out, tho I can't say if that is the best thing. Because you are having health problems ( and btw, what kind of a dick does that to a wife facing such things?) maybe it would be better to stick around for a while to keep appts and such.

Oh, crap, that just sucks.

xoxoxoBruce · 11-15-2008, 12:29 AM

This god damn thread is depressing.

Cic, we and your puppy still love you.
I have to agree moving home sucks, but you need to be with people that care about you and will provide the support you need right now. Unfortunately, we can't give you that kind of hands on, up close and personal, kind of support. But we got moral support, galore, so don't lose touch with your friends, ok?

Dana, take good care of the old girl. Lord knows she's earned it, having to carry the burden of a socialist, rabble rousing, daughter. :p

classicman · 11-15-2008, 12:45 AM

you forgot communist - bruce

ZenGum · 11-15-2008, 01:23 AM

for Cicero. Don't be harsh on yourself for the fact that this has spun you out some. That is only to be expected.

If it weren't for the medical appointments I'd say hit the road within a week. Regardless of timing, I think heading back to your family is the best plan. It'll give you a few months to stabilise, take stock, think about what you want to do next. Best wishes for you.

Dana: do not feel bad about shouting at your mum. You probably saved her from losing her hand, if not worse.

Juniper · 11-15-2008, 01:37 AM

I'm so sorry, Cicero. Great advice given so far. You'll be in my thoughts, wish I could help more.

zippyt · 11-15-2008, 02:04 AM

That SUCKS Big Time Cic !!!!
Go home , regroup , Cuss Kick Cry !!!!!!

Then get on with it !!!

11-13-2008, 11:50 AM	#2881
lumberjim I can hear my ears Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 25,571	wow, sorry cissy. that's pretty harsh. I wish i had some wisdom i could share about this kind of thing, but i don't. I can, however, give you a big virtual hug. :::::::::::::::HUG::::::::::::::::: aw, you got snot on my shirt. that's ok...I got it....I have one of those tide sticks in the car. __________________ This body holding me reminds me of my own mortality Embrace this moment, remember We are eternal, all this pain is an illusion ~MJKeenan

11-13-2008, 12:02 PM	#2884
jinx Come on, cat. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: general vicinity of Philadelphia area Posts: 7,013	Aw, I'm sorry ciccy, that's just plain shitty. Kick him in the cunt for me on your way out eh? Go home, it's too cold there anyway. __________________ Crying won't help you, praying won't do you no good.

11-13-2008, 12:26 PM	#2885
Shawnee123 Why, you're a regular Alfred E Einstein, ain't ya? Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 21,206	Oh ffs. Cic, I'm so sorry. You girl, you are awesome and you will come out even better on the other side, but I'm so sorry you're hurting right now. Double kick him in the cunt, one for jinx and one for me. Oh hell, I'm sure we're not the only ones, go ahead and kick him in the cunt about 5 thousand times. Though I never actually moved back in with the 'rents, they were there for me when I needed them and that, my dear, is the warmest feeling in the world. I knew I could go there if I needed to. Love you girl. Keep talking to us, if it helps. __________________ A word to the wise ain't necessary - it's the stupid ones who need the advice. --Bill Cosby

11-14-2008, 11:38 PM	#2888
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	So sorry to hear that Cic. Don't bother kicking him in the cunt, just stick some nice cut up fish in the furnace vents, pee on the mattress, flush about 20 tampons down the toilets, then pack your stuff and hit the road. Now is a time to be with people you can trust to love you. If there is nothing major holding you to the city there is no reason to stay. Regardless of your choice remember the cellar is not just for abuse, but also support. A few of us have been through the divorce blender and come out the other side - don't be afraid to vent or ask advice. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

11-14-2008, 11:39 PM	#2889
lookout123 changed his status to single Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Right behind you. No, the other side. Posts: 10,308	Dana - tell your mom I'm sorry about her fingur. __________________ Getting knocked down is no sin, it's not getting back up that's the sin

11-13-2008, 11:50 AM	#2882
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Practically everybody I know has gone back to the nest for a period at some point between the ages 25 and 50.

11-13-2008, 12:00 PM	#2883
glatt ™ Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Arlington, VA Posts: 27,717	All the cool kids are doing it. Seriously though, I'm sorry you are facing this now. It sucks. If it were me, I'd probably head home for a while.

11-13-2008, 04:48 PM	#2886
Treasenuak Multiorgasmic and wrapped in plastic Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Central Tennessee Posts: 483	Oh, Cic... -big hugs- I'm so sorry you're going through this right now. I'm thinking of you and praying for you... I wish there was something I could do or say to help, but I don't think there is. Just know that I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way, and if you want me to help you look for housing on Craigslist, just let me know; I'm always online when I'm not at work anyways, and it wouldn't be any trouble at all. Just let me know what area of New Mexico to search, honey. Best of luck.

11-14-2008, 08:59 PM	#2887
DanaC We have to go back, Kate! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 25,964	Mum's in hospital overnight on anti-biotics and all-night observation. She has advanced cellulitis, caught slightly before it turned into septicemia (sp?). She was complaining last night about an insect bite on her finger. When I spoke to her this morning she said it had swollen up quite badly. I'd suggested seeing her doctor, but she wanted to see how it was over the weekend and go next week if it didnt clear. When she dropped Pilau back at my house this evening, she showed me and her forefinger, half her hand and thumb were swollen up like a balloon. Bright red and angry looking. I said to her she should go down to the infirmary, but she really didnt want to. In the end I shouted at her (felt guilt about that, but when I spoked to her later she hadnt remembered me doing so. I said to her, it could be serious. Then she shows me a red line starting to track up her arm under the skin. I said she had to at least go down the road and get our Jen's advice (she's a nurse) because if its tracking up the arm that sounds like it could be really bad and end up with blood poisoning or something. Anyway she left her dog with me and off she went, where Jen, my brother and the two girls insisted in no uncertain terms that she was going to the infirmary. Martin and Jen were on the way out, so the girls went in the car with Ma down to A&E. (this was about 9:30pm) My eldest niece phoned me around 11.30 to say she was being kept in overnight, and my brother was on his way back home to gather up stuff to take to her in hospital and pick the girls up. ..A further phone call revealed that she may be in for a couple of days. Apparently had she left it for the weekend she would have ended up with septicemia and things could have got very nasty, very fast. Whilst she was waiting to be seen she phoned me and said that the single red line which had reached a few centimetres past her wrist had extended halfway up her arm and two new tracks had started to run up as well...in half an hour. I felt so sorry for her. She just wanted to go home and settle for the night and instead she had to go do all that. Apparently she was a little spaced out. 'Meels said she seemed like she didnt know what to do with herself and a little in shock. They'd all expected to come home armed with a bottle of anti-biotics. It's really bothering me that she must have been scared when the reality of the situation kicked in and she realised that she had something serious (though very treatable).

11-14-2008, 11:56 PM	#2890
Cloud ... Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 8,360	Cicero: OMG. I can't even begin to tell you how sorry I am. I can't tell you what to do; and I know how hard it must be to think and make decisions right now. Be glad you have a family that's willing to help you out, tho I can't say if that is the best thing. Because you are having health problems ( and btw, what kind of a dick does that to a wife facing such things?) maybe it would be better to stick around for a while to keep appts and such. Oh, crap, that just sucks. __________________ "Guard your honor. Let your reputation fall where it will. And outlive the bastards!"

11-15-2008, 12:29 AM	#2891
xoxoxoBruce The future is unwritten Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 71,105	This god damn thread is depressing. Cic, we and your puppy still love you. I have to agree moving home sucks, but you need to be with people that care about you and will provide the support you need right now. Unfortunately, we can't give you that kind of hands on, up close and personal, kind of support. But we got moral support, galore, so don't lose touch with your friends, ok? Dana, take good care of the old girl. Lord knows she's earned it, having to carry the burden of a socialist, rabble rousing, daughter. :p __________________ The descent of man ~ Nixon, Friedman, Reagan, Trump.

11-15-2008, 12:45 AM	#2892
classicman barely disguised asshole, keeper of all that is holy. Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 23,401	you forgot communist - bruce __________________ "like strapping a pillow on a bull in a china shop" Bullitt

11-15-2008, 01:23 AM	#2893
ZenGum Doctor Wtf Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Badelaide, Baustralia Posts: 12,861	for Cicero. Don't be harsh on yourself for the fact that this has spun you out some. That is only to be expected. If it weren't for the medical appointments I'd say hit the road within a week. Regardless of timing, I think heading back to your family is the best plan. It'll give you a few months to stabilise, take stock, think about what you want to do next. Best wishes for you. Dana: do not feel bad about shouting at your mum. You probably saved her from losing her hand, if not worse. __________________ Shut up and hug. MoreThanPretty, Nov 5, 2008. Just because I'm nominally polite, does not make me a pussy. Sundae Girl.

11-15-2008, 01:37 AM	#2894
Juniper I know, right? Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 1,539	I'm so sorry, Cicero. Great advice given so far. You'll be in my thoughts, wish I could help more.

11-15-2008, 02:04 AM	#2895
zippyt LONG LIVE KING ZIPPY! per Feetz Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Arkansas Posts: 7,661	That SUCKS Big Time Cic !!!! Go home , regroup , Cuss Kick Cry !!!!!! Then get on with it !!! __________________ "Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. " Brother Dave Gardner

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