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Old 12-31-2016, 01:25 PM   #1
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Adding insult to injury or Moving forward?

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Started in court - lost. Went to help out dad for a couple hours, then looked at three houses - all losers. Ended with making an awesome dinner, a few beers and great company. Do I look as wiped as I feel? Oh, and a 4 hour hunting trip starting at 8 am - and hour away.
Yeh, apparently that wasn't enough shit for one day. I ended the 11 year relationship with my GF as well. Issues have been brewing for some time and the distance from her was more than I am willing to take. I want to be with someone who WANTS to be with me also. That hasn't been the case for too long. So yeh. Merry F'ing Holidays.
I am already gutted as I never thought that we'd be apart and I am now facing more uncertainty as the future unfolds. I'm a people person, I don't want to do the alone thing. I WANT to share my life with someone. I want to hold hands, hug and kiss. Is that really too much to ask for? Fuuuuuck. I'm not sure if I'm more hurt, sad or mad. Keeping busy is going to be essential, methinks.
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Old 12-31-2016, 02:00 PM   #2
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What?

*stunned*
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Old 12-31-2016, 02:21 PM   #3
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Dang dude! Sorry to hear of this...
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Old 12-31-2016, 02:40 PM   #4
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Oh Classic! How awful! You are in my thoughts. X


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Old 12-31-2016, 02:47 PM   #5
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Old 12-31-2016, 03:08 PM   #6
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That sucks! Guess you're starting fresh with the new year.
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Old 12-31-2016, 04:05 PM   #7
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Old 12-31-2016, 04:42 PM   #8
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Thanks all. We'll see... I'm still shocked. I didn't plan or mean to do it. It came out of another awkward conversation about nothing. These used to be so fluid and easy and positive. For the last couple months they haven't been. She has been basically ambivalent as to whether we saw each other or not. We've been down to 1 day a week for too long. She said she was going to her mom's for NYE and if I wanted to go to some party or something to go ahead and go. I was stunned. I LIVED to see her each week and it was obvious she didn't feel the same anymore. She would rather be with no one than be with me. That was the knife that cut too deep. I just couldn't do it anymore. I'm hurt, sad, angry and heartbroken, but it was too painful to be with or now even talk to her knowing that.
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Old 12-31-2016, 05:41 PM   #9
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It will take a long while to break out of this fog, Classic. All you can do is move right along with it. It will follow you everywere.

And then it wont. Just hold on till then. My heart wishes you strength and comfort. Be especially forgiving with yourself.
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Old 12-31-2016, 05:53 PM   #10
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I'm sorry classic. That sucks. But good for you for taking control of things and not just waiting around for her.
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Old 01-01-2017, 05:14 PM   #11
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I'm a people person, I don't want to do the alone thing. I WANT to share my life with someone.
Well, I'm easy, but, I ain't cheap.
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Old 01-01-2017, 07:33 PM   #12
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Sorry man, time to write another chapter.
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Old 01-01-2017, 09:40 PM   #13
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I'm sorry, classic. From what you've said, it sounds like something had to happen. Doesn't make it easier though.
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Old 01-02-2017, 08:46 AM   #14
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Sorry, classic.

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Old 01-02-2017, 10:04 AM   #15
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Sorry classic, Women are like that.
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