Dear cellar,

[Cloud]

I missed stuff, obviously.

I miss the anal sex, too!

[monster]

I'm mulling stuff, not dead. Ali, whatever you said, don't worry, I didn't actually read it.

You know, it's hard to take a break from the cellar when you have it set as your home page. I'm going to mull some more, but seeing as I've still been letting it bother me all day, i don't think ignoring the cellar is working either.

In fact ok, I'm done mulling. Here's my problem -it's interfering in my real world. I'm a problem-solver type. (and extremely frugal). When someone posts that they have a certain problem and then offers evidence of problem-causing behaviour, it's hard for me to keep schtum. I do try -I try very hard. But some of you are very special to me -much more than a bunch of pixels on a monitor has any right to be. Beest will confirm that that particular issue has been bugging me in my real world for a while and so I sat and spent several hours trying to word what i needed to say in the best possible way. because it needed to stop being in my real world. But that didn't work, it's still there, just in a different format. I need to distance myself -yes it's about protecting me, not you lot- but I don't know how to do that. Maybe when i go on vacation there will be no internet and time will work it's magic. ch'yeah. OK I'm going away for a bit more. But probably not long. i should take up something less addictive. Like heroin.

[DanaC]

But that's the same with any group of friends. From time to time the fact that you care about them means they have an impact on your thoughts.

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by monster

Ali, whatever you said, don't worry, I didn't actually read it.

Gee, you mean I could have written just about anything and it wouldn't have made any difference? lol And here I was trying bloody hard to be diplomatic and everything!

If people keep ignoring my nice posts, I'm going to go back to posting every random thought that pops into my head without thinking about it first!

eta: about your dilemma with real versus interwebz, I think the two really don't have that much of a distinction these days. People are less and less weirded out when you say you have a friend in [insert country here] that you met on the internet. I think it's really just another way of having a circle of friends. I don't think there's anything wrong with worrying about your internet friends. I think it's nice that you do. I think it's nice when anyone does.

I think that's what make the cellar special. Because people here really do form true friendships whether they ever get to meet in the flesh or not. Don't fight it. Just go with the flow.

[jinx]

Honey?

My mouth is dry.

Honey. I'm thirsty.


Umm...

[ Water Runs ]

There you go. honey.


When I said
I was thirsty.

it doesn't mean
I want a glass of water.


It doesn't?


You're missing
the whole point

of me saying
I'm thirsty.

If I have a problem.
you're not supposed to solve it.

Men always make the mistake
of thinking

they can solve
a woman's problem.

It makes them feel
omnipotent.


Omnipotent?

Did you have
a bad dream?


It's a way
of controlling a woman.


Bringing them
a glass of water?


Yes.

I read it
in a magazine.

See. if I'm thirsty.

I don't want
a glass of water.

I want you
to sympathize.

I want you to say.

''Gloria. I. too.
know what it feels like to be thirsty.

I. too.
have had a dry mouth.''

I want you to
connect with me

through sharing
and understanding

the concept
of dry mouthedness.

[Cloud]

HaHa! (I can still say that, right?) There's the whole Mars/Venus thing in a nutshell!

[Aliantha]

Sometimes when I'm thirsty I actually do want someone to bring me a glass of water. How's my poor husband ever going to know the difference if he sees this??? lol

I'm just relieved to hear this is about stepping back and taking stock. I was concerned that monster was PM-ing naked pictures of herself to other dwellars and I didn't get any ... again.

[monster]

Well there was that too. OK I can't stay away, it's proven (but I did try, really, I logged offf and closed the window many times), but i am determined not to care so much ...oh wait, it was the Fuck Coma thread that made me need to post.... Hello my name is monster and I'm a dwellarholic.....

[lumberjim]

i'll send you some fancy cookies if you'll stay?




oh....

[ZenGum]

JI-IM!


you bad boy. What she really wants is a glass of water.




There's another cure for spousal dry-mouth, though.

[monster]

No what I really want is some good... oh wait, I'm still not posting here.....

[xoxoxoBruce]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

After all, who will Bruce swear at if you aren't here?

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Sometimes when I'm thirsty I actually do want someone to bring me a glass of water. How's my poor husband ever going to know the difference if he sees this??? lol

Get off your fuckin ass and get it yourself.

Originally Posted by monster

When someone posts that they have a certain problem and then offers evidence of problem-causing behaviour, it's hard for me to keep schtum. I do try -I try very hard.

Why? If you really do care, you won't... that's what friends are for.
For what it's worth I agreed with you 100%, but couldn't say so because I believe I'm partly responsible.

[Aliantha]

Originally Posted by Aliantha

After all, who will Bruce swear at if you aren't here?

Originally Posted by Aliantha

Sometimes when I'm thirsty I actually do want someone to bring me a glass of water. How's my poor husband ever going to know the difference if he sees this??? lol

Originally Posted by xoxoxoBruce

Get off your fuckin ass and get it yourself.

Oh yeah...ME!!! You just don't get much luckier than that.

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