goodbye

Big Sarge • Dec 16, 2012 1:18 am
as some of you know, things have really been tough for me lately. i am unemployed and my tumors have returned. when i returned from the va hospital today, i found out that i will no longer be in bryanna's and addie's life. this is not my choice. i'm sitting here looking at their gifts. anyway, this is the last picture i have of them
Chocolatl • Dec 16, 2012 1:28 am
Oh, Sarge. :( I'm so sorry. Why won't you be able to see the girls anymore? Surely you have rights as a parent?
ZenGum • Dec 16, 2012 2:00 am
Oh fuck, man.

No one is better off for this.
bluecuracao • Dec 16, 2012 2:34 am
Hey Sarge, please stick with us as long as you can.
sexobon • Dec 16, 2012 2:48 am
Big Sarge;844086 wrote:
... i found out that i will no longer be in bryanna's and addie's life. this is not my choice. ...

I take it that either you or they are moving away since the alternative would be that you fucked up.
DanaC • Dec 16, 2012 4:12 am
Oh honey. I just don;t even know what to say. How fucking horrible. *hugs*
Sundae • Dec 16, 2012 8:38 am
No, no, no, no, no.
This is all wrong.

What happened Sarge? You adore those girls. You are such a positive influence in their lives. How on earth can a decision be made (in your absence?) that you can't see them?

If the answers are too personal for the main board then please explain via PM or email - when you are ready of course.

Surely this is something that can/ will be resolved?
I'm puzzled as to how it can involve both of them anyway.
But mostly - almost entirely - just heartbroken for you. I know your children (and those you have "adopted") mean the world to you. I can understand that this must hurt more than a kick in the nuts. With steel toe-caps.

You got Addie back once. Maybe you can again.
In the mean time I am hurting on your behalf.
I sent you a small package for Christmas. Something for Addie in there. Hope it doesn't hurt too much.
Unless Elizabeth is into Disney princesses...
glatt • Dec 16, 2012 9:05 am
That's terrible news. I'm sorry, Sarge.
Lola Bunny • Dec 16, 2012 9:16 am
I'm so sorry, Sarge. :(
Griff • Dec 16, 2012 9:37 am
I'm so sorry man. Is there anything you can do?
orthodoc • Dec 16, 2012 12:21 pm
Oh, Sarge, my heart goes out to you. Please, please stay in touch. I hope there's some possibility of fighting for continued contact with the girls. So sorry.
footfootfoot • Dec 16, 2012 1:30 pm
Don't we have any lawyers on this forum who can do something about this?

Sarge, that's not fair.
limey • Dec 16, 2012 1:34 pm
Adding my voice to the chorus ... how can that possibly be the case? You are so much the responsive and caring dad - how can you not have access to your kids? I really hope you can get some help sorting this out, once and for all.

Sent by thought transference.
BigV • Dec 17, 2012 1:20 pm
I don't know enough about this to say confidently something useful.

I have questions, first among them, what the fuck?

But I do know that almost everything can be appealed. And I mean everything, from legal arguments issued by the courts to bullying threats from angry individuals. I sure wish I knew more. Until then, I'll just suffer in sadness with you Sarge. That's fucked up.
Spexxvet • Dec 17, 2012 1:31 pm
Good luck Sarge. Do everything you can to keep them in your life.
Lola Bunny • Dec 17, 2012 1:45 pm
Sarge, if you're reading this, please don't do anything rash. I'm extremely worried about you. I haven't called because first, I figured you need space, and second, you don't usually answer my calls. I will try to call you (hopefully it's still the same number).
jimhelm • Dec 17, 2012 2:50 pm
my tumors have returned.

today, i found out that i will no longer be in bryanna's and addie's life.


please tell me that these statements are unrelated?
Stormieweather • Dec 17, 2012 4:22 pm
Hold up...what now?

Why can't you be a part of their lives??


and what is the next step regarding the tumors?

DO not give up. Never, ever, ever give up. No matter how grim or bleak or hopeless things seem right this moment, fate is fickle and everything could be different tomorrow...as long as you refuse to quit.

Is there anything I can do, or any of us here? Sometimes, just a sympathetic voice is a huge boost. PM me if you'd like a phone call.
BigV • Jan 9, 2013 1:12 pm
Hey Big Sarge.

It's time for you to check in with your friends here. Please give us an update.

Thanks in advance.
Big Sarge • Jan 15, 2013 2:39 am
I was simply hit with a triple whammy at once. I got the medical bad news and then the 2 bitches with borderline personality disorders took the chance to hit me while I was at a low point. One went as far as wanting my Addie to call her new lover/live-in "daddy" so it wouldn't be confusing

I swear there is a special place in Hell for women who use children to hurt you
BigV • Jan 15, 2013 4:46 am
You're goddam skippy.

That's evil.
monster • Jan 15, 2013 12:59 pm
Big Sarge;848001 wrote:

I swear there is a special place in Hell for women who use children to hurt you


oh there had better be, or I'll go there myself just to create it.

glad you checked in.
footfootfoot • Jan 15, 2013 4:42 pm
Here you go, Sarge
Big Sarge • Jan 15, 2013 5:00 pm
I am still not seeing Addie. Her mother has the nerve to ask me to pay for Addie's gymnastics. Since I'm not the daddy, why should I pay???

But, Addie would be the one to suffer. I guess I will pay
Big Sarge • Jan 15, 2013 5:07 pm
monster - your typing looks better today, have you been drinking beer??
monster • Jan 15, 2013 6:11 pm
no, I've been working hard to overcome the effects of my brain damage. you can't drink beer with stroke medication. Well you can, but it's dumb.
Big Sarge • Jan 15, 2013 6:55 pm
I'm sorry. I was just trying to make a joke with you. My tremors smooth out when I drink alcohol. Like I said in the other post, I can be such a dumb ass
Nirvana • Jan 15, 2013 7:22 pm
But you are our dumb ass :comfort:
xoxoxoBruce • Jan 16, 2013 11:57 am
Big Sarge;848169 wrote:
I am still not seeing Addie. Her mother has the nerve to ask me to pay for Addie's gymnastics. Since I'm not the daddy, why should I pay???

But, Addie would be the one to suffer. I guess I will pay


Then you'll know where she will be if you want to see her.
Sundae • Jan 16, 2013 12:03 pm
Sarge, I know you will keep on doing what you have been doing and what you can afford.
You love these girls.
I can't even suggest you are more careful where you stick your dick as I know Bryanna is not your birth daughter.

Come over here and knock me up. I'd be a terrible Mum, but at least I'd get some sex out of it.
Big Sarge • Jan 18, 2013 1:00 am
I'm saving my pennies...I haven't had an offer like that in about 30 years and she wasn't nearly as beautiful as you are.
Trilby • Jan 18, 2013 4:52 am
sundae is so full of it. she'd make a GREAT mom.
Big Sarge • Jan 18, 2013 6:05 am
I agree totally
Griff • Jan 18, 2013 6:37 am
Sorry for your pain Sarge.
Sundae • Jan 18, 2013 10:51 am
Big Sarge;848796 wrote:
I'm saving my pennies...I haven't had an offer like that in about 30 years and she wasn't nearly as beautiful as you are.

Hey, you banged a woman who had freckles and big titties. I got thread veins and saggy dugs. But then again, I'm offering, which I understand is pretty irrestible.
Trilby;848801 wrote:
sundae is so full of it. she'd make a GREAT mom.

You don't hear what I say to Diz. Poor little chap would be at the shrink already if he could understand me.
Big Sarge • Jan 21, 2013 4:35 pm
I do admit I would like another son, but I'm almost 53. I guess I should sit back and wait for grandkids.