I'm sorry about ur stone.

Dating? After one year? Are you insane?

Your mileage may vary. Enjoy yourself. :)

Taking the kids back to their moms place always bums my stone.

It was I'll advised to be sure. I've simply prolonged the inevitable. I had plugged a hole I felt. Better idea to let the hole heal on it's own. Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps.

Jim, sorry it hurts, but better that than lies and deception. No? is there a perfect way to do it?

I'm still sick. That's bumming my stone. And it's even more bummed after reading through this thread.

How about an automobile? :blush:
Nobody deserves that.

Or that either. :(

I know that's right.

I'm gonna armor myself in solitude for a while, I think. take care of the things I have been postponing, and clean up the mess I've made of my life in general. I don't need help distracting myself.



be a solitary man....

Cash nails it.

It'll get better, jim. I was solitary for a long time, wouldn't date or hook-up or anything. When I did "jump back in" so to speak I apparently wasn't ready because I made a couple really bad choices.

I'm still solitary location-wise though there is someone in my life I care about who lives too far away. Maybe that's one way I can be very very careful still.

I wouldn't recommend my style of "easing back in" because I think people do need other people. We just have to be very careful if we're getting what we need or what we think we need, and it takes time to sort out "you."

:comfort:

Thanks L

srsly.

I have a couple good buddies that I can rap with if I need it. And then there's youse guise. and my mom still thinks I'm cool... so, I've got that going for me.

Which is nice.

(I just can't help it. I thought I could resist in type form, but apparently I cannot.)

Jim, I am sorry you are going through this. That is probably something I said to you before, but I say it again, because I mean it again.

Solitary time is good for you. I wish I had done that before. I am fortunate that my relationship has survived the turmoil that goes with that period right after a major breakup with someone else. Everyone says you should wait and heal, and I didn't do that. I recommend it, though. I think you will thank yourself later and be much much stronger for it.

It was five years after I broke up with my older boys father before I met Dazza. It was good having that time to sort myself out, but in saying that, there were certainly a number of dalliances to spice up the journey though. Solitude might be good for healing, but the human touch has some pretty magical qualities also.

It felt very good to have some affection after the crash ending of my marriage. I realized that even during my marriage I was not getting much of it. So, yeah.. pretty magical. I turned a blind eye to everything else, I think. I guess its a balance we need to find, like everything.

You can't bake a cake with only one ingredient. ;)

I tell myself that I'll just store my Chi. ...but I know me. this thing will go off while I'm cleaning it, no doubt. ....it can have a hair trigger some mornings.

Ahh to be young again.

sorry, honey, maybe I can get over there in September......

Does this guy have a Panda suit and hang out at the old sewage lagoon?

guy?

my bad. i didn't know she is a switch hitter. now my heart is broken because i felt we had a connection. sigh

monster's just fantasizing again. She does this from time to time. Then she realizes it is but a dream, and I am unattainable on every level.

Yeah, it's a curse. I was talking to my ex and the subject of this mutual friend came up and I told my ex that the guy's in love with me. The ex said "Well duh, who isn't?"

Who isn't, indeed.











:lol2:

classicman?

but then,... I'm not so sure, LOLZIE

Snort snicker lol. ;)

You just KNOW UG is.

What's bumming my stone?
 

My neighbors. They're fighting. Loudly. Profanely. Now, I got nothing against the use of profanity, hell, I'm a Pro Cusser League veteran. But, not out in public. Most of the time. This morning they were in the driveway at 7:45, full throttle. I came out on my front porch and just stared at them while they fought.

When she drove up the street, going to work I suppose, her husband gave me the stink-eye as he went toward his door. I smiled a big friendly smile, and quoted a line form "Blazing Saddles".

I said, in my cheeriest voice, mind you: "Good Morning Jerry. And isn't it a lovely morning?"

He didn't say anything.

Was he using the sarcasm font?

No, he was using your mom's font.

I hope he wiped it afterwards

Oh, I see moms are fair game for insulting now.

Just remember, you started it. And tell your Mom you started it.

Game on.

I started it? I started it? Hello? <-----not a sarcasm font.

Go away kid, ya bother me.

And my mom said 'bring it on!' How do you think I got this way? ;)

:lol:

your mother's an astronaut

AND she wears combat boots!

Yes, you.

See, you brought mom into it. I didn't say nuffin bout no mammies.

To the 1984 Denver Broncos?

If I may ontroduce a shot of levity up your collective arses?
Sachin Tendulkar failed to get his century today.

Yes, he's Indian and therefore the opposition (England are playing India, in case it 'scaped your notice) but he's a good batsman and it would have been a notable achievement. LBW on 91. Given by an Australian Umpire.

He's not the best, not even the Indian best. But it would have been good to see.

what?

She said she's really really bored and can't wait for the summer to be over.

So, I Finally got some closure here, which is good. There really is a new guy. (i didnt believe it) And he seems to be a controlling, jealous asshole. So it makes sense now, the way it went down... Friday night, I sent her one last text to make sure it was really done, and he immediately called me, motherfucking me. It was kind of funny. Like I'm supposed to be scared of him. Lol. He can have her. Oh my god, he can have her.... Thank you, Eric. Buh bye. I owe you a beer.

Was his last name Cantor? :eek:

Just kidding.

Sorry to hear that you are hurting. Shit like that sucks on so many levels.

If she attracts guys like that, and likes it, she is damaged goods, and would have led you to more serious dramatic chaos down the road. Bullet dodged.

Yeah, he's lucky it turned out that way.

I read your post again and you know what, NO ONE deserves a cruel break-up, especially cuz the other has someone else. That's just plain wrong. I'm glad you've got closure now though. And just a side note, I feel sorry for her to be in a relationship with a controlling, jealous man. She will regret choosing him over you.

Cant download audiobooks from the library to our Ipod. I googled and found out that it just isn't possible with Ipod. WTF!!!

Should I return it and get another mp3 player?

Slashin' Sachin is the best batsman of the modern era. He has passed 100 runs 99 times in international cricket - just one short of a century of centuries. Totally unprecedented.

And for what it is worth, England have just crushed India in a test series (WTF?) and in so doing have earned the number one ranking in test cricket (WTFFF?). This would have been unthinkable five yers ago, when Enlgand had been rubbish for a decade.

IMHO I give credit to a few now-retired players: Gough, Pieterson, Collingwood. They weren't great, but they had guts and detemination and set a standard of toughing it out through difficult times. IMHO the modern success was built on that attitude.

Well done, En-ger-land, may your Barmy Army enjoy the good times.

this is a certainty. As I said, it was ending anyway, and I knew it... was even ready for it to be over ... but now I know why the sudden cessation of real communication. If this guy is grabbing her phone up and reading her texts, and feels comfortable calling me from it and speaking for her.... yeah.. she's in the shit there. She's not a weak person, I doubt she'll tolerate that very long. I hope she enjoys it as long as it lasts. And if they go the distance, then that's great too. She deserves to be happy. She's had a lot of bad shit happen in her life.

I'm happier for now just being me. I have no time for drama, nor the energy for it.

I've actually had a few civil conversations with shelb via text in the last few days, and I'm feeling hopeful there....

It seems like I am being taught that I need to remember to see things from other people's perspective. It can only help me make better decisions, I guess?

Sorry to hear all that....

It's the stuff of life, though, innit. It's discomfort to get stronger on the other side.

But how great to see it for what it is, because goddammit you're not 22 any more. They say "if I only knew then what I know now" but the great thing is, it is now, and you know what you know now, which is awesome.

If that makes any sense

it does.

You learn. just like the song.

You live you learn
You love you learn
You cry you learn
You lose you learn
You bleed you learn
You scream you learn

...you think a person is one thing, and then you find out they're another... or maybe both things... and the only real way to tell is by what they do. Not by what they tell you they're feeling or the things they say when things are easy. This person was clearly not who I thought she was. Should have seen that coming. There were clues. Still, I think it would have just petered out on it's own, but this new ingredient in the soup caused her to act in the way she did. It may have been more tortuous and damaging had it died slowly.

This was like ripping a band aid off. OUCH! and then... oh, ok...

Funnily enough, my favourite line in that song is
The firetrucks are coming up around the bend

Back when it felt I was only holding myself together through sheer bloody-mindedness, I would sing You Learn under my breath, stood outside Leyton Tube station waiting for the bus. And that line used to make me feel better, because in my mind it spoke of death and destruction elsewhere. Dodging a bullet. I'm sure it's not the real meaning...

Now it just makes me think of the evil child in front of the burning house pic.
And that's worth a grin.

My friends...Mr and Mrs Bickerson, and their neighbors...Mouthy McKnowalot and his darling mother...are moving to a town about a half hour from me.

It's good for them. In some ways it's good for me too. I really spend too much time over there (girl gets lonely at home alone all the time) and it's awfully easy to just drop over anytime.

But I'll miss their proximity. We have a lot of fun, playing games, drinking beers, talking and laughing.

Of course I'll be able to visit, but since they won't live right up the street from me anymore those visits will mostly be overnights on a weekend.

So I was telling my friends about posting about them here online, and that of course I hid their names to protect the innocent. "What were our names?" they asked.

Heheheee...these are the awesome kinds of friends I have. We know who we are and we don't mind a gentle ribbing about any of our personality traits. Mr Bickerson thought I said "Dickerson" to which Mrs Bickerson replied "No, Bickerson, because we bicker so much!" She wants an engraved wooden sign for their new place.

Mouthy McKnowalot loved his name even better. He said "I have a mouth, and I know how to use it! And I do know a lot!" :)

"lovely mother" was impressed that she was the only one without a kidding name.

They are moving this week. I'm going to miss them.

Bummer. Sorry, dude.

Thanks, man. It's the end of a crazy era, that's for sure. :)

Closed window, opened door and all that. You'll make new friends. Maybe mr right will move into their pad.

Mouthy wanted to be Mr Right, but he was totally wrong...for me. ;)

Just be sure Mr. Right's first name isn't 'Always.'

Man... first, I found out they cancelled my favorite afternoon talk/comedy show on the radio. I am genuinely sad at the thought that these two guys will have to pack up and move to a new city in order to find work.

And then, I read that Andy Whitfield (star of the HBO series Spartacus) is dead of lymphoma at 39. Nevermind that the series won't be the same without him, he was way too young to go.

The empathy is getting to me today.

Oh my god.

Dude called me at work today, out of the blue. Seems she's moving into his house, and he wanted to return the belongings of mine that were left behind at her place ....ostensibly.... also, we talked for a time about how i should stay away from her, and not try to 'step on his girl' ... i kept saying... yeah, ok... no problem... I don't want her...haven't tried to contact her since that text weeks ago when you called and motherfucked me...but stop sounding like you're threatening me because I'm not scared....and, again, i don't want her back anyway.

Seems his ex wife cheated on him, and if he thought I was trying to get with her again, he was going to become hostile. he knows himself and that's just how he is. I guess he didn't notice it when our phone system told him he was calling in on a recorded line. I assured him that he has more to worry about with the guys she works with, and he could just leave my stuff at her neighbor's place for me. He said she knew he was going to call me about the dvd's and stuff, but I wonder how she'd react to hearing a recording of that conversation.

I think I'll just file it away and try to forget it. birds of a crazy feather.....

cuckoo cuckoo cuckoo