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Old 01-07-2013, 09:08 AM   #61
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Thanks folks. It feels like I'm crapping a red hot brick.
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Old 01-07-2013, 09:10 AM   #62
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That doesn't sound very good. Sorry, Man.
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Old 01-07-2013, 09:35 AM   #63
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It's like, in order to be her partner you were required to twist yourself into different shapes, and now you get to return to your original shape.

My ex was an accountant and would detail expenses down to the penny and everything had to be split equally. She was an ultra hard-ass about it. It could never even be "hey I got it this time you get it next time" because if the next time she had to pay $2 more, she would remember that and get annoyed.

So I twisted into that shape. Then when copacetic Jackie came around, she noticed that I was uptight about splitting things, even a year after the ex was gone.

When you return to your original shape, it feels good.
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Old 01-07-2013, 12:45 PM   #64
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update:

things are heating up. More tomorrow.
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Old 01-07-2013, 01:21 PM   #65
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good luck
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Old 01-07-2013, 07:03 PM   #66
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Quote:
Originally Posted by footfootfoot View Post
It feels like I'm crapping a red hot brick.
update:
things are heating up. More tomorrow.
I found these two posts together rather humorous...



What UT said! He totally nailed it.
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Old 01-08-2013, 04:38 PM   #67
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OMG you married your mother! Now that I have that out of the way I can commiserate. Not that I have anything like your situation i just hate that you are in the one you are in. Stay smart.....
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Old 01-11-2013, 04:00 PM   #68
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Today the inch asked me point blank if mrs. foot and I were getting divorced. I think I did pretty well at not throwing his mom under the bus. I have to keep conscious about that.

It was kind of sad when he suggested ways to prevent his mom from getting angry all the time.

I need a lot more sleep to sort things out.

Also have been listening to "Gone Girl" on audio books. Holy crap.
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Old 01-11-2013, 04:12 PM   #69
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That's tough. How old are the inch and mm now?
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Old 01-11-2013, 04:22 PM   #70
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9 and 5.5
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Old 01-12-2013, 03:43 AM   #71
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When my boys father and I split, they were only little and they didn't seem to be too bothered about us not being together so much. I think largely because it was usually only one or the other of us at home at bed time mostly so there wasn't that adjustment for starters. I think it was easier.

They still asked the same questions though. Just not for a few years, and by then they were used to us not being together anymore anyway.
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Old 01-12-2013, 07:14 AM   #72
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My brother and I were about those ages when our parents got divorced. He was apparently pretty affected by it, though we didn't really know how much until years later, while I genuinely couldn't have cared less one way or the other. It just depends on the kid.
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Old 01-12-2013, 08:19 AM   #73
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That's very tough, I'm sorry. Every child reacts differently; sounds like yours are very perceptive and want honesty. Probably a good thing.
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Old 01-12-2013, 04:53 PM   #74
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Worst thing I heard from the boy (phone call saying goodnight) about a week after we split...

'I don't get it... Don't you and mommy love each other anymore?'

I died a little.

But kids are v resilient. They will adapt to the new reality faster than either of you adults. Feel for you, bro.
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Old 01-13-2013, 10:40 AM   #75
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kids are tough and smart and usually play you like a fiddle.

All the world knows I have daddy issues; my 22 year old let me know he has mommie issues because of, yes, moi. okay. So THAT particular pos got handed down.

and the hard core narcissistic mother who let you know you existed to honor and worship her? Yeah, sorry but you married her. S'okay though. I married my dad.


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