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Old 01-30-2004, 12:27 PM   #1
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What I've learned about men and marriage

As long as I put out without complaining, everything will be alright. (Even though I said no at first.)
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Old 01-30-2004, 01:26 PM   #2
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That is an extraordinarily cynical statement.

Looking for a divorce attorney, are you?
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Old 01-30-2004, 01:29 PM   #3
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Ah, words to live by.
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Old 01-30-2004, 01:36 PM   #4
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*shrug*

I'd not see it like that.
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Old 01-30-2004, 01:41 PM   #5
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I'm pretty sure Dr. Laura just wrote a book that makes that same statement.
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Old 01-30-2004, 02:02 PM   #6
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I don't really agree. There are all sorts of potential marriage problems that can't be resolved by having sex. Little things start to annoy you after a while, and you have to learn to agree on things and make compromises when you have conflicting goals.
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Old 02-01-2004, 07:19 PM   #7
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I agree. Marriage is about growing together and compromising when you disagree. It's about thinking in the "we" instead of in the "I," and putting the family first on your list of priorities. I think that if you have respect, you develop trust, which leads to love, which leads to faithfulness, which leads to stability, which leads to dependability, and those are the things healthy relationships are built on. Everything else comes from them.

But that's just me. *shrugs* I could be wrong.

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Old 02-01-2004, 09:53 PM   #8
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Re: What I've learned about men and marriage

Quote:
Originally posted by FelinesAreFine
As long as I put out without complaining, everything will be alright. (Even though I said no at first.)
You've got a lot to learn.
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Old 02-17-2004, 07:29 PM   #9
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I think your statement should be amended to:

"As long as I sacrifice my wants and needs in favor of everything he wants, he'll be happy."

That may mean spreading your legs at his whim.

But that does NOT mean everything is/are/was/willbe okay.
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Old 02-17-2004, 07:49 PM   #10
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what I've learned about men and marriage

I agree, you may have missed out on some pretty important aspects to men and to marriage.
He can and ultimately should be your friend as well as your partner. The ability to laugh at oneself and ones partner is irreplaceable in marriage. How in the hell are you going to get through the tense moments or the boring nights or how bout the times when the kid is sick and won't stop screaming or your in-laws drop in unannounced for perhaps the twelfth time that week? My husband is my closest friend and ally. I haven't and won't disrespect him or ever make him feel he is less than all I want or need. He in return never hurts me either. This is not to say those feelings don't exist. We are normal people, we just don't lash out at each other.
I am glad I am not the man. I don't want to have a penis (whale or otherwise) I may not always want a penis inside me either but I think staying positive about it is the key. If you start to resent him and his penis then you may start having fantasies of killing him while you are having sex with him. (not killing him while you are having sex, but fantasizing about killing him instead of enjoying the sex.) I have been with my husband for 9 years. Three kids. Through the death of my mother. Through the discovery and reunion with my birth sibling. Through indiscretion. It has definitey been worth it. If I lost him I doubt I would marry again (although I would send out a search party) I figure I could not find this kind of joy and comaraderie with another. OK. Now those of you who are crying either from boredom or the overly sweet sentiment may get a kleenex.
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Old 02-17-2004, 08:00 PM   #11
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Looks like FAF has departed the Cellar.

She must be too busy to log in
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Old 02-17-2004, 08:15 PM   #12
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Well I hope the cats are ok...
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Old 02-17-2004, 08:15 PM   #13
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May she never return...what a fucking spazz.
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Old 02-17-2004, 10:35 PM   #14
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C'mon Syc, don't expect everyone to come to the Cellar with the right answers. Some can come to study at your feet and drink the wisdom of your cup.
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Old 02-17-2004, 10:48 PM   #15
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Yeah, they can drink from my cup, all right.
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